It turns out I read Latina Nurse correctly. For whatever reason, she wants me now, though that didn't prevent her from kicking me out instead of letting me sleep over. It's probably better this way anyway as I'll get better rest here at home.
Earlier on the evening, On the way to Latina Nurse's place, I set up a Day2 with this girl from awhile back. She was the one who flaked the day before I went up to Minneapolis for the Vikings game. That's how long ago that was. I actually had stopped texting her for awhile as I had been busy working on other girls. I text her on Sunday and her replies made it seem like she finally wanted to meet up. I called her and she picked up and we are supposed to meet on Friday. I think it's 50/50 whether she flakes or not, but I'm already prepared either way. I have some friends meeting me that Friday and I'm going to sarge after the Day2.
I feel like things are finally falling into place. The only problem is that meeting up with these girls takes too much time away from work. That's one reason why I want to get my SNL game down. After Sunday's breakthroughs, I think I'm going to continue to progress.
I titled this post with "I'm beginning to believe" as a reference to the movie "The Matrix." I finally am starting to believe in my PUA skills. I think back to that hot brunette I was dancing with Sunday and I believe I can have that now too. The change is that the quality of the girls I've been getting into my life hasn't be all that great. I began to believe I could get some girls, but now I believe I can get some really attractive girls too.
Let me just end this by saying if I develop my current prospects into some MLTR's, I can only imagine how much confidence I'm going to have when I'm out practicing cold approaching.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Spiritual connection?
..A few weeks ago, I talked about meeting a blonde when I was out in the suburbs with my friends. I met her right around closing time and we had a short conversation. I remember she seemed high buying temperature at the time and even then I felt like we had a deep conversation in that short time we talked. I took her number quickly as we all were getting rushed out of the bar as it was closed.
I didn't expect much to come out of it as that is the nature of night game. Sometimes, you think you have a connection with a girl and it turns out she was just drunk and doesn't even remember you.
I remember I texted her the first time and she asked something like, "Who is this?"
I passed that test and somehow, we started exchanging really long texts. We talked about some a lot of deep topics. I have less than five people that I can have these deep conversations about spirituality, life, and happiness so it was a pleasant surprise that this girl has become on of them.
Last night, we finally talked on the phone for the first time and we talked for over two hours. She reluctantly had to go as it was really late for her.
I'm hoping we can meet up in person soon. I don't see how sparks can't fly when we actually hang out.
Part of me didn't even want to write this entry. I suppose part of it is that irrational fear that I'm somehow going to jinx it by writing about it. I know that's not true though.
Maybe the real reason I haven't wanted to write about it is that both don't want to get my hopes up and hype this up for myself and I also don't want to get one-itis.
I know that the answer is I just have enjoy this for what it is so far and see what happens. I supposed it's okay to indulge the thought that there might be some deeper connection here. That's a feeling I haven't had in about a year and a half.
I'm still out there working other options and I think I'll avoid the dreaded PUA curse of one-itis. In fact, in just a few hours, I'm having dinner with Latina Nurse and I think this time she's done playing games. She actually calls me now and she picks up the phone just about every time I call. It's like something clicked in her head and now she wants me. I still suspect she might have been dating someone before. I suppose if things going the right way, I'll get the real story soon.
I didn't expect much to come out of it as that is the nature of night game. Sometimes, you think you have a connection with a girl and it turns out she was just drunk and doesn't even remember you.
I remember I texted her the first time and she asked something like, "Who is this?"
I passed that test and somehow, we started exchanging really long texts. We talked about some a lot of deep topics. I have less than five people that I can have these deep conversations about spirituality, life, and happiness so it was a pleasant surprise that this girl has become on of them.
Last night, we finally talked on the phone for the first time and we talked for over two hours. She reluctantly had to go as it was really late for her.
I'm hoping we can meet up in person soon. I don't see how sparks can't fly when we actually hang out.
Part of me didn't even want to write this entry. I suppose part of it is that irrational fear that I'm somehow going to jinx it by writing about it. I know that's not true though.
Maybe the real reason I haven't wanted to write about it is that both don't want to get my hopes up and hype this up for myself and I also don't want to get one-itis.
I know that the answer is I just have enjoy this for what it is so far and see what happens. I supposed it's okay to indulge the thought that there might be some deeper connection here. That's a feeling I haven't had in about a year and a half.
I'm still out there working other options and I think I'll avoid the dreaded PUA curse of one-itis. In fact, in just a few hours, I'm having dinner with Latina Nurse and I think this time she's done playing games. She actually calls me now and she picks up the phone just about every time I call. It's like something clicked in her head and now she wants me. I still suspect she might have been dating someone before. I suppose if things going the right way, I'll get the real story soon.
Drunken stupor: Kissed a married girl in less than 5 mins
..For most of Monday, I felt like shit from drinking too much. I didn't have a pounding headache. Instead, I just felt tired and a little dizzy. I started off at this birthday party. G and I drank copious amounts of sangria at this tapas place and then I had too many beers.
Touching some guys hand:
We started at Stanley's. I opened some sets but only had one longer set. I was talking to this girl when suddenly this guy put his arm around this girl. I didn't quite figure out their story. I'm guessing now that he must have seen me kino escalating and putting my arm around her. G noticed one time that I went to put my arm around her and I ended up touching this other guy's hand because I didn't realize it was there. The guy and I looked at each other weird and didn't say anything.
Dance floor game done better:
G convinced me to move to Division Street early. There were more people out that usual and some cute girls as we found out there was a Cosmetology convention in town. I was really drunk at this point but I still was coherent enough to remember most of what happened. I remember going out on the dance floor. There were three girls out there. Somehow I was dancing with this hot, short brunette. She was really adorable. I was grinding on her quickly. Her two friends were there so I pulled them in and started dancing with them. I guess it shows that deep down, I know what to do. When I'm sober, I just stop my self because I'm self conscious or fear what people think about me.
I must have been thinking too much about Saturday night because I then decided to get G's help. He was talking to some girl and I said, "Hey man. I need your help." He didn't want to come out so I found out later I grabbed his hand and pulled him out there. We laughed about that afterward but I didn't remember doing that. He started dancing with one of the friends and I went back to the brunette. He left shortly after.
I remember trying to escalate more with her than I did with the girls on Saturday. When I was grinding her, I started to blow on her neck and I kissed her neck. For some reason, I was chicken to actually turn her around and kiss her on the lips.
Kissing a married chick in under 5 mins:
This is where I went wrong, and I'm not talking in terms of morality though I'm sure many would have a problem with what happened. I'm talking purely in terms of game. It was on with that cute brunette and I should have tried to make something happen. Instead, I left the dance floor when the friends pulled her away from me instead of trying to win them over or instead of going back. Honestly, I would have gone back if the following didn't happen.
I see G talking to a brunette so I start talking her friend. It's this overweight blonde that's cute and who I found attractive enough to have sex with which is all that matters anyway. Being drunk, I don't remember what I said exactly. I remember her mentioning that she was married. Then, I remember a minute or two later being close to her face. I remember just feeling like it was right to kiss her and being totally drunk, I didn't hesitate and just went to kiss her. I remember that she was into it. I pulled back and then went in and kissed her again. She was a good kisser. We starting making out. I pulled back again and then went back in. I stopped again and I think she started to feel guilty because she said she had to go to the bathroom. She told me she'd be back. I didn't see her come back.
Blackout:
I think I remember telling G what happened. I thought about going back to the brunette but I waited for the blonde. Then G told me that someone stole his jacket. What a shitty night at that particular bar for G... He suggests we go to the bar across the street that's hopping place on Sunday.
This is when I started to black out. I remember dancing with this fat black girl near the end of the night. I remember the lights coming on and then my next memory is seeing G's couch and lying down. The next thing I know, I wake up on the couch. Then, I fall asleep and wake up and realize it's morning. I rushed outside because I knew I was in a tow zone and fortunately I was able to move it to a spot a few cars back that was legal and free for the whole day. I then went back to G's.
What I learned from G:
It's so odd for me to drink so much that I blacked out. I've only done that once or twice. I didn't even do that at New Years and I thought I drank more that night. It amazes me when G tells me that we were watching a movie for a bit when we got back. No memory of that. I then asked him what I was saying in the cab ride back because I'm curious what I do when I'm totally blasted. He said I kept rocking back and forth and saying, "Oh man. I think I drank too much," and "I'm really drunk!"
That sounds familiar. I heard similar reports from the few others times I've been overboard drunk.
I learned that we (that's what he says, but I say he did it all) venue changed a set from The Lodge to the bar where I blacked out. I remember we talked to a 2-set. I specifically remember him playing this bowling game where you use a puck. I remember talking to the friend but I don't remember moving them. I think he might have told them we were going to the other bar and we saw them there. I actually remember he was talking to some girl at the blackout bar. He says I was talking to the friend and the friend told him she thought I was cool. I totally don't remember that.
He actually said that if both hadn't been so drunk, we probably could have pulled them back to his place but he settle for a phone number.
"You inspired me."
I got a huge compliment from G. He hadn't really been sarging lately. I guess he had two regular girls for awhile that made him lazy to go out and then he felt bad after he lost them and that's why he didn't go out Saturday. He said that when he saw me out there opening sets and just having fun and not worrying or caring about the outcome, he said he got inspired. He forced himself to open a few sets himself. He also said being out with me that night has him excited about going out sarging again. He vowed to work on day game like he used to and to really work on his game. Besides, he's leaving for Afghanistan in a month so he might as well live it up and he shouldn't worry about girl rejecting him.
Reference points:
I don't want to drink again like this. I ended up not putting in hours on Monday because I felt like shit. I'm glad I had this night because I learned two things that are going to help me when I'm out sarging sober. I was more aggressive and confident in my dance floor kino. I think I'll do better the next time I'm dancing because I see I know inside what to do. I just have to not talk myself out of it and just be in the moment.
Most importantly, I got to see evidence for myself that you really can kiss girls faster than you think is even possible. Tonight was the fastest I've kissed a girl in a club. I've recognized times in the past when it could have been this fast or faster, but I chickened out. Recognizing this was the first step. Now that I've actually done what I know I'm supposed to do, I think I'll have more confidence that I can read the right moments and I'll kiss girls more often and faster.
This is the first time I've kissed a married girl too. Normally, I would have heard that and probably left. It's crazy that I ended up making out with her. It makes me realize that I must be really good at this for that to be possible. Also, if some married girl will kiss me, why should I fear that some single girl that I can feel is attracted to me is going to reject me. It makes no sense and I think I'll start doing the right thing and kiss the girls that I recognize like me. Lately, as I've said over and over here, I've been finding myself in situations where there girls bombard me with IOI's and I don't pull the trigger.
I really think Sunday night will end up being a big turning point in my game.
Touching some guys hand:
We started at Stanley's. I opened some sets but only had one longer set. I was talking to this girl when suddenly this guy put his arm around this girl. I didn't quite figure out their story. I'm guessing now that he must have seen me kino escalating and putting my arm around her. G noticed one time that I went to put my arm around her and I ended up touching this other guy's hand because I didn't realize it was there. The guy and I looked at each other weird and didn't say anything.
Dance floor game done better:
G convinced me to move to Division Street early. There were more people out that usual and some cute girls as we found out there was a Cosmetology convention in town. I was really drunk at this point but I still was coherent enough to remember most of what happened. I remember going out on the dance floor. There were three girls out there. Somehow I was dancing with this hot, short brunette. She was really adorable. I was grinding on her quickly. Her two friends were there so I pulled them in and started dancing with them. I guess it shows that deep down, I know what to do. When I'm sober, I just stop my self because I'm self conscious or fear what people think about me.
I must have been thinking too much about Saturday night because I then decided to get G's help. He was talking to some girl and I said, "Hey man. I need your help." He didn't want to come out so I found out later I grabbed his hand and pulled him out there. We laughed about that afterward but I didn't remember doing that. He started dancing with one of the friends and I went back to the brunette. He left shortly after.
I remember trying to escalate more with her than I did with the girls on Saturday. When I was grinding her, I started to blow on her neck and I kissed her neck. For some reason, I was chicken to actually turn her around and kiss her on the lips.
Kissing a married chick in under 5 mins:
This is where I went wrong, and I'm not talking in terms of morality though I'm sure many would have a problem with what happened. I'm talking purely in terms of game. It was on with that cute brunette and I should have tried to make something happen. Instead, I left the dance floor when the friends pulled her away from me instead of trying to win them over or instead of going back. Honestly, I would have gone back if the following didn't happen.
I see G talking to a brunette so I start talking her friend. It's this overweight blonde that's cute and who I found attractive enough to have sex with which is all that matters anyway. Being drunk, I don't remember what I said exactly. I remember her mentioning that she was married. Then, I remember a minute or two later being close to her face. I remember just feeling like it was right to kiss her and being totally drunk, I didn't hesitate and just went to kiss her. I remember that she was into it. I pulled back and then went in and kissed her again. She was a good kisser. We starting making out. I pulled back again and then went back in. I stopped again and I think she started to feel guilty because she said she had to go to the bathroom. She told me she'd be back. I didn't see her come back.
Blackout:
I think I remember telling G what happened. I thought about going back to the brunette but I waited for the blonde. Then G told me that someone stole his jacket. What a shitty night at that particular bar for G... He suggests we go to the bar across the street that's hopping place on Sunday.
This is when I started to black out. I remember dancing with this fat black girl near the end of the night. I remember the lights coming on and then my next memory is seeing G's couch and lying down. The next thing I know, I wake up on the couch. Then, I fall asleep and wake up and realize it's morning. I rushed outside because I knew I was in a tow zone and fortunately I was able to move it to a spot a few cars back that was legal and free for the whole day. I then went back to G's.
What I learned from G:
It's so odd for me to drink so much that I blacked out. I've only done that once or twice. I didn't even do that at New Years and I thought I drank more that night. It amazes me when G tells me that we were watching a movie for a bit when we got back. No memory of that. I then asked him what I was saying in the cab ride back because I'm curious what I do when I'm totally blasted. He said I kept rocking back and forth and saying, "Oh man. I think I drank too much," and "I'm really drunk!"
That sounds familiar. I heard similar reports from the few others times I've been overboard drunk.
I learned that we (that's what he says, but I say he did it all) venue changed a set from The Lodge to the bar where I blacked out. I remember we talked to a 2-set. I specifically remember him playing this bowling game where you use a puck. I remember talking to the friend but I don't remember moving them. I think he might have told them we were going to the other bar and we saw them there. I actually remember he was talking to some girl at the blackout bar. He says I was talking to the friend and the friend told him she thought I was cool. I totally don't remember that.
He actually said that if both hadn't been so drunk, we probably could have pulled them back to his place but he settle for a phone number.
"You inspired me."
I got a huge compliment from G. He hadn't really been sarging lately. I guess he had two regular girls for awhile that made him lazy to go out and then he felt bad after he lost them and that's why he didn't go out Saturday. He said that when he saw me out there opening sets and just having fun and not worrying or caring about the outcome, he said he got inspired. He forced himself to open a few sets himself. He also said being out with me that night has him excited about going out sarging again. He vowed to work on day game like he used to and to really work on his game. Besides, he's leaving for Afghanistan in a month so he might as well live it up and he shouldn't worry about girl rejecting him.
Reference points:
I don't want to drink again like this. I ended up not putting in hours on Monday because I felt like shit. I'm glad I had this night because I learned two things that are going to help me when I'm out sarging sober. I was more aggressive and confident in my dance floor kino. I think I'll do better the next time I'm dancing because I see I know inside what to do. I just have to not talk myself out of it and just be in the moment.
Most importantly, I got to see evidence for myself that you really can kiss girls faster than you think is even possible. Tonight was the fastest I've kissed a girl in a club. I've recognized times in the past when it could have been this fast or faster, but I chickened out. Recognizing this was the first step. Now that I've actually done what I know I'm supposed to do, I think I'll have more confidence that I can read the right moments and I'll kiss girls more often and faster.
This is the first time I've kissed a married girl too. Normally, I would have heard that and probably left. It's crazy that I ended up making out with her. It makes me realize that I must be really good at this for that to be possible. Also, if some married girl will kiss me, why should I fear that some single girl that I can feel is attracted to me is going to reject me. It makes no sense and I think I'll start doing the right thing and kiss the girls that I recognize like me. Lately, as I've said over and over here, I've been finding myself in situations where there girls bombard me with IOI's and I don't pull the trigger.
I really think Sunday night will end up being a big turning point in my game.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
This "success in sarging" has to happen
..I'm about ready to go to bed. It's my new mantra I repeat to myself. "This has to happen." As I wrote in the title, it means "success in sarging." In other words, hooking up with girls, and just having fun experiences when I'm out in the field.
Again, I'm thinking about the night and of course I feel that bit of frustration, but I start smiling because I have absolute faith that my game is going in the right direction. Heck, my life is finally going in the right direction. I haven't even written about that other stuff here. I'm dedicated again to work, I'm increasing my mileage in my running program, and I'm even watching what I eat and my clothes are fitting better.
Sarging is when I really feel alive, though. When I'm on a hot streak at work and when I'm having a good run on a beautiful day are probably a close second.
I just think back on where I started in this game and I'm just amazed at what happens to me now when I go out. I still consider these one or two day a week outing to be practice. I'm looking forward to summertime when I hope to be going out at least three times a week and having consistent practice with my wings.
I just don't see how I'm not going to see the success I'm looking for and I supposed that means that I'm finally gaining the confidence and inner game that I've lacked in sarging.
I'm going to be having some incredible experiences this summer and the girls I meet will have an awesome time too.
Cheers!
Again, I'm thinking about the night and of course I feel that bit of frustration, but I start smiling because I have absolute faith that my game is going in the right direction. Heck, my life is finally going in the right direction. I haven't even written about that other stuff here. I'm dedicated again to work, I'm increasing my mileage in my running program, and I'm even watching what I eat and my clothes are fitting better.
Sarging is when I really feel alive, though. When I'm on a hot streak at work and when I'm having a good run on a beautiful day are probably a close second.
I just think back on where I started in this game and I'm just amazed at what happens to me now when I go out. I still consider these one or two day a week outing to be practice. I'm looking forward to summertime when I hope to be going out at least three times a week and having consistent practice with my wings.
I just don't see how I'm not going to see the success I'm looking for and I supposed that means that I'm finally gaining the confidence and inner game that I've lacked in sarging.
I'm going to be having some incredible experiences this summer and the girls I meet will have an awesome time too.
Cheers!
Raging brush fire state & Margarita girl
..What happened with the 2-set was frustrating, but I didn't give up. I remember being all sweaty from dancing and going to the bathroom. I washed my face off and dried my face and walk out. As I'm walking along the hallway, some brunette was walking with a guy and she looked right at me and said, "Hi!"
?
That's what I thought when it happened. Now, I realize that I must have been in the "raging brush fire" state as RSD calls it. It was the physical exercise from dancing so much and grinding on two hot girls. I was just in that zone where the girl saw something attractive beaming from me that made her want to open me.
I opened a few sets that didn't go anywhere. Then I opened this mixed 3-set with two girls and one guy. They knew each other from Indiana University. The cute brunette was giving me huge IOI's. We were having a good conversation when a big group of friends showed up. I met this cool guy who just moved to the area with Kansas City. I talked with him and went to meet the two girls he's with. The set stalls out and I end up leaving though perhaps I could have went back in and worked that brunette but she was talking to the new friends.
Colorado blonde:
I met this cool blonde from Colorado. We had a good conversation. I thought it was on. The only mistake I think I made was I again was hesitant with the kino. Well, I did a little bit but I remember we were having this moment of deep understand with something I was saying. I put my hand on top of her hand. She seemed fine with it but then I pulled it off. That was weak. I do that too often. Thinking back, I should have put my hand on top of her hand. When she didn't resist and seemed comfortable, I could have transitions to holding her hand. I would have been holding her hand and looking her into the eye as we had that moment and it would have been more powerful.
She was in this big set, but I had a little bit of isolation with her as the other friends were talking. I guess I should have moved her to the bar. I did a few half effort moves to get her to come upstairs but it didn't work. I should have just told her to come to the bar and say "I want to show you something." Since we were still at her table though, a friend showed up. They started talking. I joined in the conversation but I could feel like I had lost my moment.
Another problem with this set is that she was leaving the next day. That's another reason I should have isolated faster and escalated faster. I was moving in slow motion here when I needed to be in fast forward. I tried one more time to get her upstairs but she told me they were going to find some other friends and "maybe they'd find me up there." I knew it was a blow off. This set had some possibilities earlier but I hadn't sealed the moment.
Margarita girl?:
I went right upstairs. This was when I decided to see if the original 2-set was still here. They were gone unfortunately. I figured that was the case. If I really had wanted to find them, I should have done so way earlier but I figured I'd at least make some effort. I was walking by the window area when I spotted this tall girl. She's not hot but she has a cute face and I like taller women regardless. She was a little bigger but not grossly overweight.
It's funny. I opened her and then we started dancing to some some right there. We were basically just dancing in front of each other. I talked some more. It looked like she's with two girls who have guys with them. I never quite figured out their stories. Early on, this dude tried to bust me out. I got introduced to a guy and girl and the guy tells me, "She has a boyfriend."
I just blew it off and kept talking to her. We talk about dancing and she said, "Why do you go show me how to dance over there?"
I feel dumb writing this now because the girl suggested the isolation move when I should be the one trying for the isolation. We danced in front of each other. She seemed to get really into the Pitbull song that has the lyrics "Uno, dos, tres." I tried getting up close to her and putting my hands on her hips but she seemed to be uncomfortable with that so I backed up. I guess it was because I should have gotten closer and closer. Then, put my hand on her shoulder, grinded a bit and then put my hands on her hips. As I'm writing this, I can picture that PlayerSupreme dance lesson video on Youtube. (BTW, I'm going to watch that again before I go to bed so I can learn something for next time.)
A Madonna song came on that she didn't like. I noticed this and used it as a reason to isolate her. I told her I want to go to the quiet bar area. She hesitates but I had finally gotten into the right alpha state at this point. I grabbed her hand and started leading her in that direction and she followed. (As I'm writing this, I recognize that is how I need to isolate girls. No more half effort, "Do you want to go upstairs?" I know that's wrong but I kept telling myself to isolate and then I'll blurt something out so I feel like I made an effort. I know that I need to wait for some high point in the conversation, and then just lead the girl like I lead this girl.)
I see an opening on the couch. I sit down and tell her to sit by me. She starts telling me that she needs to be by her friends. I tell her, "Don't worry, they won't leave behind you. We'll go back soon."
We talk for a bit but then she insists on going back and hanging out by her friends. I take her hand and lead her over there.
Let's get margaritas & Missing the moment for the kiss?
We chat some more by her friends. I tell her I want to see her again and decide to number close her. She seems like she does want to grab a margarita. She didn't know her number off hand so she grabbed her phone. I programmed my number in there and called myself so I'd have her number. It's funny, but I had forgotten her name so I had her spell it into my phone.
We talked some more and dance a bit. The lights then came on since it was closing time. I put my arm around her and told her that I really enjoyed meeting her. In my head, I was thinking that maybe I should make a kiss move. Her friends were making out with guys so she probably wanted to kiss. I hope I didn't screw up by missing my moment. Thinking back, I was looking into her eyes. I probably should have stroked her face and kiss her. Instead, I decided to go for the hug kiss. I hugged her. I then pulled back and looked into her eyes. It's felt right to kiss girls before at that moment, but it didn't feel right here so I didn't do it.
No, the moment was before that but maybe all is not lost.
I did try to venue change her. I felt her out for after hours or food. I put the suggestion out there but I didn't really sell it like I should have. I guess I failed to be a "true closer" as RSDHoobie defines it. I did just throw it out of there instead of hyping up the after hours place and really trying to get her to come somewhere else with me. Her two friends each had a guy so it might have been perfect for me to move them all somewhere.
I can blame it on lack of practice or whatever, but what I definitely need to take from this is that I need to be alpha and give a full effort all the way. I'll remember that Sunday night when I go out with G. 412
?
That's what I thought when it happened. Now, I realize that I must have been in the "raging brush fire" state as RSD calls it. It was the physical exercise from dancing so much and grinding on two hot girls. I was just in that zone where the girl saw something attractive beaming from me that made her want to open me.
I opened a few sets that didn't go anywhere. Then I opened this mixed 3-set with two girls and one guy. They knew each other from Indiana University. The cute brunette was giving me huge IOI's. We were having a good conversation when a big group of friends showed up. I met this cool guy who just moved to the area with Kansas City. I talked with him and went to meet the two girls he's with. The set stalls out and I end up leaving though perhaps I could have went back in and worked that brunette but she was talking to the new friends.
Colorado blonde:
I met this cool blonde from Colorado. We had a good conversation. I thought it was on. The only mistake I think I made was I again was hesitant with the kino. Well, I did a little bit but I remember we were having this moment of deep understand with something I was saying. I put my hand on top of her hand. She seemed fine with it but then I pulled it off. That was weak. I do that too often. Thinking back, I should have put my hand on top of her hand. When she didn't resist and seemed comfortable, I could have transitions to holding her hand. I would have been holding her hand and looking her into the eye as we had that moment and it would have been more powerful.
She was in this big set, but I had a little bit of isolation with her as the other friends were talking. I guess I should have moved her to the bar. I did a few half effort moves to get her to come upstairs but it didn't work. I should have just told her to come to the bar and say "I want to show you something." Since we were still at her table though, a friend showed up. They started talking. I joined in the conversation but I could feel like I had lost my moment.
Another problem with this set is that she was leaving the next day. That's another reason I should have isolated faster and escalated faster. I was moving in slow motion here when I needed to be in fast forward. I tried one more time to get her upstairs but she told me they were going to find some other friends and "maybe they'd find me up there." I knew it was a blow off. This set had some possibilities earlier but I hadn't sealed the moment.
Margarita girl?:
I went right upstairs. This was when I decided to see if the original 2-set was still here. They were gone unfortunately. I figured that was the case. If I really had wanted to find them, I should have done so way earlier but I figured I'd at least make some effort. I was walking by the window area when I spotted this tall girl. She's not hot but she has a cute face and I like taller women regardless. She was a little bigger but not grossly overweight.
It's funny. I opened her and then we started dancing to some some right there. We were basically just dancing in front of each other. I talked some more. It looked like she's with two girls who have guys with them. I never quite figured out their stories. Early on, this dude tried to bust me out. I got introduced to a guy and girl and the guy tells me, "She has a boyfriend."
I just blew it off and kept talking to her. We talk about dancing and she said, "Why do you go show me how to dance over there?"
I feel dumb writing this now because the girl suggested the isolation move when I should be the one trying for the isolation. We danced in front of each other. She seemed to get really into the Pitbull song that has the lyrics "Uno, dos, tres." I tried getting up close to her and putting my hands on her hips but she seemed to be uncomfortable with that so I backed up. I guess it was because I should have gotten closer and closer. Then, put my hand on her shoulder, grinded a bit and then put my hands on her hips. As I'm writing this, I can picture that PlayerSupreme dance lesson video on Youtube. (BTW, I'm going to watch that again before I go to bed so I can learn something for next time.)
A Madonna song came on that she didn't like. I noticed this and used it as a reason to isolate her. I told her I want to go to the quiet bar area. She hesitates but I had finally gotten into the right alpha state at this point. I grabbed her hand and started leading her in that direction and she followed. (As I'm writing this, I recognize that is how I need to isolate girls. No more half effort, "Do you want to go upstairs?" I know that's wrong but I kept telling myself to isolate and then I'll blurt something out so I feel like I made an effort. I know that I need to wait for some high point in the conversation, and then just lead the girl like I lead this girl.)
I see an opening on the couch. I sit down and tell her to sit by me. She starts telling me that she needs to be by her friends. I tell her, "Don't worry, they won't leave behind you. We'll go back soon."
We talk for a bit but then she insists on going back and hanging out by her friends. I take her hand and lead her over there.
Let's get margaritas & Missing the moment for the kiss?
We chat some more by her friends. I tell her I want to see her again and decide to number close her. She seems like she does want to grab a margarita. She didn't know her number off hand so she grabbed her phone. I programmed my number in there and called myself so I'd have her number. It's funny, but I had forgotten her name so I had her spell it into my phone.
We talked some more and dance a bit. The lights then came on since it was closing time. I put my arm around her and told her that I really enjoyed meeting her. In my head, I was thinking that maybe I should make a kiss move. Her friends were making out with guys so she probably wanted to kiss. I hope I didn't screw up by missing my moment. Thinking back, I was looking into her eyes. I probably should have stroked her face and kiss her. Instead, I decided to go for the hug kiss. I hugged her. I then pulled back and looked into her eyes. It's felt right to kiss girls before at that moment, but it didn't feel right here so I didn't do it.
No, the moment was before that but maybe all is not lost.
I did try to venue change her. I felt her out for after hours or food. I put the suggestion out there but I didn't really sell it like I should have. I guess I failed to be a "true closer" as RSDHoobie defines it. I did just throw it out of there instead of hyping up the after hours place and really trying to get her to come somewhere else with me. Her two friends each had a guy so it might have been perfect for me to move them all somewhere.
I can blame it on lack of practice or whatever, but what I definitely need to take from this is that I need to be alpha and give a full effort all the way. I'll remember that Sunday night when I go out with G. 412
Venue changed 2 hotties in 2 mins, but stalled out on dance floor
..This was one of those nights where I both amaze myself and frustrate myself. I kept telling myself, though, that I have to give myself some credit. I went out by myself with no wings and had a blast.
Sidegames and I went into the city. We ate at this restaurant called DuChamps on Damen. It was on Chicago magazines list of the "Top 30 Burgers in Chicago." Duchamps is also a Rewards Network miles restaurant so I was excited to try their burgers. We had an 8pm reservation but it took almost an hour to get our table. Sidegames was pissed but the hostess was very apologetic. Finally, the manager came and I got a free beer out of the deal. My original plan was to catch the fight at Bourbon Street but since we got out of dinner so late, I decided to just try to hit this place in Lincoln Park that was showing the UFC fight. I got there just as the Mir-Carwin fight was starting. It was $10 cover but I decided to eat it since I wanted to see that fight live and the GSP fight.
I had two beers and enjoyed seeing Mir get his head pounded in. I gotta watch that again. After the GSP fight, I went to take a piss.
Hot 2-set:
I figured early on that I wouldn't be sarging at this bar with the fight as it was mostly guys. There were some girls but they were all in groups with guys. I figure not to many girls go to a bar that's showing a UFC fight. As I'm walking to the bathroom, though, I see this seated 2-set. I tell myself that I'm going to open them before I leave.
When I come back, some dude is talking to one of the girls. It figures. I go right in and start talking to the unoccupied girl. I decide she's my target (hereafter "HBpale"). I bet most guys would think the other girl is hotter. She had darker skin, though, and HBpale had pale skin. I love pale skin. Perhaps, my choice of targets lead to my demise later.
I amaze myself by how easily I open many sets. Sure there are some girls that were cold to me tonight, but many sets open right open like this one did. The dude is occupying the friend so I'm focusing on my target but he stalls out for a second. Naturally, I get introduced to the friend. The friend (hereafter "HByellow" for the dress she was wearing) is moving to the music. I tell her, "You look like you want to dance. There won't be much dancing here as you can see. This place next door is great because it has a great upstairs area that is basically one big dance floor."
She replies, "Cool, let's go."
Lol. I was surprised how easy this was but I kept my poker face. I smiled and agreed. They started gathering their things and the dude opened her again. I was already thinking that I needed a wingman so I tell her, "You should bring your friend over there."
She blows him off and tells me, "I told him he can meet us over there."
I lead them two bars down. Luckily there's no line. As I write this, I think I should have had these girls arm in arm so it looked like they were with me. It would have DHVed me to the bouncers for the future but it doesn't really matter.
I suck at dance floor but at least I try...
I suppose the title of this section is what I get out of what happened. I lead them to the middle of the dance floor. HByellow puts her purse down and they put their coats on top of the purse. I start moving to the music. We start dancing around the stuff. HByellow is a good dancer. She knows how to move her hips and do some cool moves. HBpale is just moving back and forth with the same moves like most girls do. I'm a little hesitant to start dancing with them for the usual reasons. I don't really know what I'm doing. I see HBpale is kind of rubbing her ass on this dude behind her so I start getting close to her. I press my body against her briefly and then back off and dance around our centerpiece.
Suddenly, this natural shows up and starts dancing with HBpale. Damn do I wish I had some moves. She's into it and he's grinding on her. HByellow is just dancing by herself so I figure I might as well start trying to grind her. I get up close to her and she's fine with it. I have to say that I find it really awkward to dance face to face. I find it easier to just come up behind the girl. I put my hands on her waist and move along with her hips and the beat. I get my body close to hers so her ass is grinding on my crotch.
As I'm grinding on her, I watch the natural with HBpale. RSD Ozzie's right that it's shortcut to kino as I see her kiss him.
I think the guy is trying to get his friend in so he can get me out of the set. I see him pull so guy over and but doesn't come into the set. The natural guy eventually pulls my girl and starts dancing with her so I grind on HBpale.
Eventually, this dude disappears. I tried a few times to move them to the bar so I could run some more verbal game but I'm really lost. First, I have no wings. If I had any of my wings, this shit would be so on. Next, this natural has some moves and runs circles around me on the dance floor but then he disappears so I'm still stuck with a two set.
I was wondering where you went:
After a bit more dancing, HByellow makes it known that HBpale wants to get off the dance floor. HByellow asks me, "Where do we get a drink around here?"
BTW, as I was driving home and as I'm writing this, I can see the matrix so to speak. The title of the section is a line that should have clued me in real time instead of recognizing what was going on after, when it's too late.
I lead them downstairs, but maybe I should have lead them to the quieter bar area upstairs. They stop by the bottom of the stairs. I try to sell the downstairs bar area but HByellow tells me HBpale just wanted some cool air. I tell them how we're gonna appreciate this cool air in two months when it's 90 degrees. I try again to get them to come to the bar but HByellow says they are fine. This bouncer starts telling us we can't be standing by the stairs. They say they want to go dance. I lead them upstairs again.
As I'm walking on the dance floor, I stop and talk to this brunette with glasses. I opened her and there seemed to be some possibilities there, but I left right away because I didn't want to give up on this two set. I catch up with my two set.
I tell them, "Hey, there you are. I was just cheering someone up over there."
HBpale says something like, "I was wondering where you went."
BING! I should have realized then that she liked me. It all makes sense. She jumped right on the venue change. When things stalled out, she's the one that gave me the opportunity to take control by asking me where the bar area is so I could lead them.
I still want HBpale:
That's what was going on in my head at the time. For a few moments, I think, "What the hell am I supposed to do here?" I'd picture Tim saying that you do what you want to do when you think that. We started dancing around the purses again. This time, I didn't take long to grind up on the girls from behind. I'd dance with one and then go to the other one. Of course, some random guy shows up. He starts dancing with HByellow.
She shows her crazy side. She motions some girl over so she gets sandwiched between the new guy and the girl. Meanwhile, I'm just grinding on HBpale. She seems cool with it, but I tried a few times to turn her around so she'd face me but she resisted that for some reason.
On a sidenote, I tried some escalation but again I didn't really know what I was doing. I remembered what my friend told me a few weeks ago. That's when I was dancing with this hot blonde with peach pants. I remember my friend said when you're grinding on the girl from behind, you need to start breathing into her neck. I did that a bit but I found it hard to do.
Did a screw up?/Reflections
I don't even know what happened but suddenly HBpale starts walking away. This was a few songs after we had come back. This whole time, I had done a good job of believing things were on and proceeded accordingly. This time I lost confidence. Instead of following them, I just let them go. I looked for them later (like near closing time) but they were gone.
As I reflect on it now, I guess I shouldn't have given up at that point. I could have followed them, or I could have looked for them sooner. Still, I think it's obvious now that my mistake was keeping HBpale as my target. Yeah, HBpale was more my type but it's not like HByellow was fat or ugly. I'm serious when I said most guys probably would have thought she was hotter. As I did grind on both of them, I can say that HByellow had a much firmer body and nicer ass that HBpale. I guess I just failed to adjust on the fly and I was overwhelmed but what was happening.
Oh, and wings would have helped... They were busy so at least I got out there, had fun, and tried my best to make something happen.
Naturals on the dance floor:
I gotta give that guy credit. He escalated quickly with HBpale on the dance floor. These fucking naturals run circles around me on the dance floor. It's funny how the guy just left though. He probably is suffering from the problem of not being a closer. He kissed the girl but if he wanted to get laid he needed to stick around.
It amuses me that I own naturals in some ways. I can open girls when some might be hesitant to do it. Also, naturals don't steal girls away from me like the used to. I'm sure it can still happen but I'll tell you that guys don't come into my sets anymore, at least when I'm not on the dance floor.
One day, I want to figure out dance floor escalation. I believe it can be a tight part of my game. I'll blow the set open like I did today. I'd bring the girls on the dance floor and escalate. Pull them off and talk more and pull them home.
Sidegames and I went into the city. We ate at this restaurant called DuChamps on Damen. It was on Chicago magazines list of the "Top 30 Burgers in Chicago." Duchamps is also a Rewards Network miles restaurant so I was excited to try their burgers. We had an 8pm reservation but it took almost an hour to get our table. Sidegames was pissed but the hostess was very apologetic. Finally, the manager came and I got a free beer out of the deal. My original plan was to catch the fight at Bourbon Street but since we got out of dinner so late, I decided to just try to hit this place in Lincoln Park that was showing the UFC fight. I got there just as the Mir-Carwin fight was starting. It was $10 cover but I decided to eat it since I wanted to see that fight live and the GSP fight.
I had two beers and enjoyed seeing Mir get his head pounded in. I gotta watch that again. After the GSP fight, I went to take a piss.
Hot 2-set:
I figured early on that I wouldn't be sarging at this bar with the fight as it was mostly guys. There were some girls but they were all in groups with guys. I figure not to many girls go to a bar that's showing a UFC fight. As I'm walking to the bathroom, though, I see this seated 2-set. I tell myself that I'm going to open them before I leave.
When I come back, some dude is talking to one of the girls. It figures. I go right in and start talking to the unoccupied girl. I decide she's my target (hereafter "HBpale"). I bet most guys would think the other girl is hotter. She had darker skin, though, and HBpale had pale skin. I love pale skin. Perhaps, my choice of targets lead to my demise later.
I amaze myself by how easily I open many sets. Sure there are some girls that were cold to me tonight, but many sets open right open like this one did. The dude is occupying the friend so I'm focusing on my target but he stalls out for a second. Naturally, I get introduced to the friend. The friend (hereafter "HByellow" for the dress she was wearing) is moving to the music. I tell her, "You look like you want to dance. There won't be much dancing here as you can see. This place next door is great because it has a great upstairs area that is basically one big dance floor."
She replies, "Cool, let's go."
Lol. I was surprised how easy this was but I kept my poker face. I smiled and agreed. They started gathering their things and the dude opened her again. I was already thinking that I needed a wingman so I tell her, "You should bring your friend over there."
She blows him off and tells me, "I told him he can meet us over there."
I lead them two bars down. Luckily there's no line. As I write this, I think I should have had these girls arm in arm so it looked like they were with me. It would have DHVed me to the bouncers for the future but it doesn't really matter.
I suck at dance floor but at least I try...
I suppose the title of this section is what I get out of what happened. I lead them to the middle of the dance floor. HByellow puts her purse down and they put their coats on top of the purse. I start moving to the music. We start dancing around the stuff. HByellow is a good dancer. She knows how to move her hips and do some cool moves. HBpale is just moving back and forth with the same moves like most girls do. I'm a little hesitant to start dancing with them for the usual reasons. I don't really know what I'm doing. I see HBpale is kind of rubbing her ass on this dude behind her so I start getting close to her. I press my body against her briefly and then back off and dance around our centerpiece.
Suddenly, this natural shows up and starts dancing with HBpale. Damn do I wish I had some moves. She's into it and he's grinding on her. HByellow is just dancing by herself so I figure I might as well start trying to grind her. I get up close to her and she's fine with it. I have to say that I find it really awkward to dance face to face. I find it easier to just come up behind the girl. I put my hands on her waist and move along with her hips and the beat. I get my body close to hers so her ass is grinding on my crotch.
As I'm grinding on her, I watch the natural with HBpale. RSD Ozzie's right that it's shortcut to kino as I see her kiss him.
I think the guy is trying to get his friend in so he can get me out of the set. I see him pull so guy over and but doesn't come into the set. The natural guy eventually pulls my girl and starts dancing with her so I grind on HBpale.
Eventually, this dude disappears. I tried a few times to move them to the bar so I could run some more verbal game but I'm really lost. First, I have no wings. If I had any of my wings, this shit would be so on. Next, this natural has some moves and runs circles around me on the dance floor but then he disappears so I'm still stuck with a two set.
I was wondering where you went:
After a bit more dancing, HByellow makes it known that HBpale wants to get off the dance floor. HByellow asks me, "Where do we get a drink around here?"
BTW, as I was driving home and as I'm writing this, I can see the matrix so to speak. The title of the section is a line that should have clued me in real time instead of recognizing what was going on after, when it's too late.
I lead them downstairs, but maybe I should have lead them to the quieter bar area upstairs. They stop by the bottom of the stairs. I try to sell the downstairs bar area but HByellow tells me HBpale just wanted some cool air. I tell them how we're gonna appreciate this cool air in two months when it's 90 degrees. I try again to get them to come to the bar but HByellow says they are fine. This bouncer starts telling us we can't be standing by the stairs. They say they want to go dance. I lead them upstairs again.
As I'm walking on the dance floor, I stop and talk to this brunette with glasses. I opened her and there seemed to be some possibilities there, but I left right away because I didn't want to give up on this two set. I catch up with my two set.
I tell them, "Hey, there you are. I was just cheering someone up over there."
HBpale says something like, "I was wondering where you went."
BING! I should have realized then that she liked me. It all makes sense. She jumped right on the venue change. When things stalled out, she's the one that gave me the opportunity to take control by asking me where the bar area is so I could lead them.
I still want HBpale:
That's what was going on in my head at the time. For a few moments, I think, "What the hell am I supposed to do here?" I'd picture Tim saying that you do what you want to do when you think that. We started dancing around the purses again. This time, I didn't take long to grind up on the girls from behind. I'd dance with one and then go to the other one. Of course, some random guy shows up. He starts dancing with HByellow.
She shows her crazy side. She motions some girl over so she gets sandwiched between the new guy and the girl. Meanwhile, I'm just grinding on HBpale. She seems cool with it, but I tried a few times to turn her around so she'd face me but she resisted that for some reason.
On a sidenote, I tried some escalation but again I didn't really know what I was doing. I remembered what my friend told me a few weeks ago. That's when I was dancing with this hot blonde with peach pants. I remember my friend said when you're grinding on the girl from behind, you need to start breathing into her neck. I did that a bit but I found it hard to do.
Did a screw up?/Reflections
I don't even know what happened but suddenly HBpale starts walking away. This was a few songs after we had come back. This whole time, I had done a good job of believing things were on and proceeded accordingly. This time I lost confidence. Instead of following them, I just let them go. I looked for them later (like near closing time) but they were gone.
As I reflect on it now, I guess I shouldn't have given up at that point. I could have followed them, or I could have looked for them sooner. Still, I think it's obvious now that my mistake was keeping HBpale as my target. Yeah, HBpale was more my type but it's not like HByellow was fat or ugly. I'm serious when I said most guys probably would have thought she was hotter. As I did grind on both of them, I can say that HByellow had a much firmer body and nicer ass that HBpale. I guess I just failed to adjust on the fly and I was overwhelmed but what was happening.
Oh, and wings would have helped... They were busy so at least I got out there, had fun, and tried my best to make something happen.
Naturals on the dance floor:
I gotta give that guy credit. He escalated quickly with HBpale on the dance floor. These fucking naturals run circles around me on the dance floor. It's funny how the guy just left though. He probably is suffering from the problem of not being a closer. He kissed the girl but if he wanted to get laid he needed to stick around.
It amuses me that I own naturals in some ways. I can open girls when some might be hesitant to do it. Also, naturals don't steal girls away from me like the used to. I'm sure it can still happen but I'll tell you that guys don't come into my sets anymore, at least when I'm not on the dance floor.
One day, I want to figure out dance floor escalation. I believe it can be a tight part of my game. I'll blow the set open like I did today. I'd bring the girls on the dance floor and escalate. Pull them off and talk more and pull them home.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Drunken sarging: Reference experiences and a silly sarge
I wanted to get drunk on Saturday to celebrate St Patrick's Day like everyone else. I'm glad I did it as I had fun. I didn't pull but my wing did. I helped him out by being cool enough that she was comfortable riding in the car with both of us.
I'm starting to realize that I now sarge drunk worse than I do sober. For awhile, drunken sarging was giving me better results. I suppose being slightly buzzed might help sometimes, but I don't think it does. On the other hand, Saturday night, I was really plastered.
Opening a set twice and not realizing it:
Here's an example of one of my drunken follies. I opened this 2-set. I opened this 2-set late in the night and I could tell the drinking had affected my game. First of all, I'd have trouble remembering some things as I'm talking. I remember I couldn't think of the name of a movie one time and a restaurant this other time. Next, I could tell I was doing something different drunk because I was getting busted out quickly. I opened this set and a minute or two into the set, the one girl starts giving me the hint to leave. She says, "We haven't seen each other in a long time and we were having a private conversation." That doesn't happen to me often and when it does, it happens on the approach and I can usually plow through that. I probably could have stayed in set if I gave some DHV stories but I left.
I opened some other set near the front of the bar. It's going okay but the girl I'm talking too isn't that attractive and I don't feel like it's really on. Suddenly, I see this redhead and brunette sit down at this table next to me.
I say to the redhead, "You must be popular today with the red hair."
The girl giggles and smiles. The brunette says, "Don't you remember us?"
I thought about it and I honestly didn't think I had ever met them before. I figured they remembered me from somewhere so I said, "No. How do you know me?"
The brunette replies, "We were just sitting over there," and points to the table I had left about five minutes ago.
"Seriously? Lol. Why did you move here?"
"We wanted a better table."
"Wow. I must really be drunk," I said as I stumbled away.
That was crazy. Obviously, I was too drunk to be gaming properly. There were two lessons here though. First, it's funny how it didn't even matter that I had opened them before and sort of been busted out. The redhead smiled when I opened them again. She probably wanted to talk to me as I would have gotten the annoyed look when I opened them again if she really disliked me. Second, I wonder if that was proximity IOI.
I feel funny writing that. I guess it's the inner chode in me that still wants to doubt myself. It's not out of the question that they'd move there so I might open them again. Even though I was plastered, it's true what TD says, "The self is always shining through." My attractive self could have been showing through the drunken stupor. Next, there wasn't much difference between the table they were at and the table they moved to. I actually thought the original table was a better location as it was in the middle area of the bar and a little quieter. A third piece of evidence is that the redhead smiled when I went to their table and opened them again. As I said above, if she were annoyed, she'd would have had a different look on her face. Fourth, I might have created some attraction through a jealously plot line with the new set. I'm sure the redhead noticed that I had gone into this next set. I walked directly to next set and it was only about three tables away from the original table and the second set was in clear view from the original table.
In the past, I wouldn't have believed girls would notice this, but I'm starting to believe. I think about that Valentine's Day set where the girl told me later that she had seen me talking to this other girl at the stairs. That was about an hour and a half after I opened her the first time. Second, I just listened to a this guy Brad P talking about club game. He says in clubs, you want to open sets and create attraction. Then you leave and bounch to another set and do the whole thing. He says the girls in the club will notice it and the girls you opened will see you opening the other sets. I concede it makes sense.
Reference material:
I think drunken sarging helps me create reference points. Alcohol does makes you lose some inhibitions. I've had some breakthroughs because I've done stuff drunk that I'd be afraid to do sober. After experiencing what happens, I realize it's not a big deal so I end up being comfortable doing it sober. For example, I made a big breakthrough with dancing while drunk. I'll get out on the dance floor even if it's empty because I don't care what people think or if they are watching. At this point, I've gotten so used to not caring that I don't even notice when people are watching me.
Saturday night, I created a reference point with giant groups. At our second bar, I remember going to the bathroom and spotting this cute brunette with glasses. Normally blondes are my type, but brunettes with glasses have been turning me on lately. I wanted to open her but she was in a giant group. It was like a big booth. You had to step up to the area. There was seating all along the back wall. The seating spread around the table. I'd probably be intimidated by this set while sober. It was a giant group. The only good thing was my girl was in the middle area so there wasn't any table blocking me.
I came out of the bathroom and walked right up and opened her. Even drunk, I knew every one was looking at me. I handled it like TD says is right. He describes the method for a coffee shop pickup. Everyone will be staring at you and the girl will notice it. You don't acknowledge it at all and just walk up, talk to the girl, and keep you gaze on her. If you do it right, TD says it looks like you know the girl. You also gain massive attraction as you give the vibe a celebrity does. You make it seem like you're used to people watching you and you have no reaction where most guys would get nervous.
The girl ended up being married but I was so glad I opened her. I think I'll be more comfortable with approaching a girl in a giant set in the future because I gained this reference point while drunk.
I'm starting to realize that I now sarge drunk worse than I do sober. For awhile, drunken sarging was giving me better results. I suppose being slightly buzzed might help sometimes, but I don't think it does. On the other hand, Saturday night, I was really plastered.
Opening a set twice and not realizing it:
Here's an example of one of my drunken follies. I opened this 2-set. I opened this 2-set late in the night and I could tell the drinking had affected my game. First of all, I'd have trouble remembering some things as I'm talking. I remember I couldn't think of the name of a movie one time and a restaurant this other time. Next, I could tell I was doing something different drunk because I was getting busted out quickly. I opened this set and a minute or two into the set, the one girl starts giving me the hint to leave. She says, "We haven't seen each other in a long time and we were having a private conversation." That doesn't happen to me often and when it does, it happens on the approach and I can usually plow through that. I probably could have stayed in set if I gave some DHV stories but I left.
I opened some other set near the front of the bar. It's going okay but the girl I'm talking too isn't that attractive and I don't feel like it's really on. Suddenly, I see this redhead and brunette sit down at this table next to me.
I say to the redhead, "You must be popular today with the red hair."
The girl giggles and smiles. The brunette says, "Don't you remember us?"
I thought about it and I honestly didn't think I had ever met them before. I figured they remembered me from somewhere so I said, "No. How do you know me?"
The brunette replies, "We were just sitting over there," and points to the table I had left about five minutes ago.
"Seriously? Lol. Why did you move here?"
"We wanted a better table."
"Wow. I must really be drunk," I said as I stumbled away.
That was crazy. Obviously, I was too drunk to be gaming properly. There were two lessons here though. First, it's funny how it didn't even matter that I had opened them before and sort of been busted out. The redhead smiled when I opened them again. She probably wanted to talk to me as I would have gotten the annoyed look when I opened them again if she really disliked me. Second, I wonder if that was proximity IOI.
I feel funny writing that. I guess it's the inner chode in me that still wants to doubt myself. It's not out of the question that they'd move there so I might open them again. Even though I was plastered, it's true what TD says, "The self is always shining through." My attractive self could have been showing through the drunken stupor. Next, there wasn't much difference between the table they were at and the table they moved to. I actually thought the original table was a better location as it was in the middle area of the bar and a little quieter. A third piece of evidence is that the redhead smiled when I went to their table and opened them again. As I said above, if she were annoyed, she'd would have had a different look on her face. Fourth, I might have created some attraction through a jealously plot line with the new set. I'm sure the redhead noticed that I had gone into this next set. I walked directly to next set and it was only about three tables away from the original table and the second set was in clear view from the original table.
In the past, I wouldn't have believed girls would notice this, but I'm starting to believe. I think about that Valentine's Day set where the girl told me later that she had seen me talking to this other girl at the stairs. That was about an hour and a half after I opened her the first time. Second, I just listened to a this guy Brad P talking about club game. He says in clubs, you want to open sets and create attraction. Then you leave and bounch to another set and do the whole thing. He says the girls in the club will notice it and the girls you opened will see you opening the other sets. I concede it makes sense.
Reference material:
I think drunken sarging helps me create reference points. Alcohol does makes you lose some inhibitions. I've had some breakthroughs because I've done stuff drunk that I'd be afraid to do sober. After experiencing what happens, I realize it's not a big deal so I end up being comfortable doing it sober. For example, I made a big breakthrough with dancing while drunk. I'll get out on the dance floor even if it's empty because I don't care what people think or if they are watching. At this point, I've gotten so used to not caring that I don't even notice when people are watching me.
Saturday night, I created a reference point with giant groups. At our second bar, I remember going to the bathroom and spotting this cute brunette with glasses. Normally blondes are my type, but brunettes with glasses have been turning me on lately. I wanted to open her but she was in a giant group. It was like a big booth. You had to step up to the area. There was seating all along the back wall. The seating spread around the table. I'd probably be intimidated by this set while sober. It was a giant group. The only good thing was my girl was in the middle area so there wasn't any table blocking me.
I came out of the bathroom and walked right up and opened her. Even drunk, I knew every one was looking at me. I handled it like TD says is right. He describes the method for a coffee shop pickup. Everyone will be staring at you and the girl will notice it. You don't acknowledge it at all and just walk up, talk to the girl, and keep you gaze on her. If you do it right, TD says it looks like you know the girl. You also gain massive attraction as you give the vibe a celebrity does. You make it seem like you're used to people watching you and you have no reaction where most guys would get nervous.
The girl ended up being married but I was so glad I opened her. I think I'll be more comfortable with approaching a girl in a giant set in the future because I gained this reference point while drunk.
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