As I said in my last post, today was night where I practiced isolation and escalation. I learned a lot and I know feel more comfortable doing these things in the future now that I have some reference experiences. Let me start of by saying something that I realized my frame has totally changed. When sets wouldn't get anywhere or the girl wouldn't open up, I used to think that was something wrong with me. Now, I'm realizing that it's often stuff that has nothing to do with me and in many ways is just bad luck. I might also be bordering on arrogance sometimes cause I'll be plowing and in my mind I'm thinking, "How the fuck is this girl not responding to anything I'm saying?" I can see how Jeffy/jlaix can honestly say the when he talks to girls, it's only a matter of time before they are attracted as it's often like that for me at this intermediate stage of my game.
There were two sets tonight that made total sense after I realized what the girl's situation was. The first was this 2-set Seagull and I found early in the night. There was this white girl and this Asian girl. I told Seagull he could have the Asian girl who was cuter cause Asians aren't my thing. He opened them and then I BSed with some mixed sets while waiting. This dude from Kentucky and I ended up talking. He was cool and he mentioned this Thai place he likes called "Joy's." I have the number in my phone and want to try it. I figure if it's still in his phone after moving away, it must be good. He said he was so excited to have their food when he was here.
I started talking to the other girl while Seagull worked the Asian girl. The girl seems interesting enough. She likes travel and smiled when I was talking. She just didn't want to invest in the conversation. She wasn't turning her body language to me and despite smiling and seeming to be interested in the topic of conversation, she just wouldn't open up. It all made sense in about ten minutes when I saw her looking at the entrance and I saw her eyes lit up. Yup, it was her boyfriend. Now, I understood why she was acting so distant. I started talking to the boyfriend's friend and then the Asian girl. The Asian girl was actually pretty cool. Seagull and decided to leave the set though.
"You keep staring at me."
That's what this girl in this mixed set that Seagull and I found ourselves in kept telling me. She was trying to break he state, but it wasn't me staring at her. We were gazing into each others eyes. There was a lot of sexual tension in the air. I had opened this mixed 3-set with one guy, and three girls seated at a table. Instead of opening the guy like I often do, I just did the Intent-Intro opener directly on the girl I wanted. She was receptive and I briefly introduced myself to the friends. Seagull came in after a few minutes, and soon he was having a deep conversation with this blonde. He seemed to hit it offer with her from the start. He ended up going back to that set several times and number closing her.
My target seemed really into me. The conversation was great and she was responding well to my early kino. I put my arm around her a few times and she was cool with that. We kept gazing into each others eyes and smiling, but then she tried to break her state by accusing me of staring at her. I just ignored that and kept talking. When we had silence and were gazing into each others eyes I told her how cute she is and then I started to stroke her hair. She pushed my hand away. I kept talking and then I tried to use Tim's, "You're gonna be my girlfriend for the next 5 minutes." She freaked out about that and wouldn't play along. Then she left to the bathroom and I went to the dance floor.
Near closing time, I found Seagull back in that set. There's this Indian dude sitting next to her. I don't even open her. I actually opened this tall brunette that's in the AMOG story below. After Seagull left the set, I said, "Man, I can't believe she likes that Indian dude more that me. He really outgamed me I guess." Seagull told me something that made everything make sense.
"That's her boyfriend."
Okay, now everything makes sense. It felt so weird that I sensed things were on and she was responding well to escalation and then she just shut down the hair stroking the way she did. Now it made sense. She knew her boyfriend was coming. She was attracted to me. Here's bad luck in sarging. If she were single or frustrated with that boyfriend, or perhaps if he hadn't be set to meet them there, we would have been kissing or more. Instead, she felt like the hair touching was too much and the Tim roleplay really snapped her into reality. She must have thought, "WTF am I doing. My boyfriend is coming soon." That's why she wouldn't play along and soon disappeared.
I'm good at this AMOG stuff:
I guess the years of being picked on in high school and the guys who stole my sets when I first started still piss me off a little bit. That would explain why I get so excited about AMOGing guys. I decided to open this tall brunette. I'm 5'7" and she was a few inches taller than me. I remember when I opened her, she kept looking at me. It was as if she was trying to size me up. I guess it is ballsy for a way shorter guy to come up to a tall girl like that. Of course I didn't flinch and gazed into her eyes as I smiled. I passed the test as we started talking. Suddenly, this huge guy shows up. He was like a foot taller than me, big and had several piercings. He says, "What's up?" and I feel like he's trying to bust me out of the set.
I immediately do something Jeffy described in "The Jeffy Show." I'm like hey man. I put my arm around him. I gotta stand up on my tippy toes for a second to do this. I say, "Hey, you're like my big brother man." I then pinch his cheeks and say, "Awww, look at these cheeks. Isn't that cute."
The right way to do this stuff is to be in fun guy mode. If you do this too serious, you can get in a fight. When your relaxed and being fun, the guy has to accept your frame. He can't just want to fight me cause he'd look totally socially miscalibrated and would weird out the girls. Tyler/Owen explains the theory way better than I can in his old post about "AMOGing."
The guy responded just like the guy in Jeffy's story. He just smiled there and giggled even though I was showing dominance over him. I then rolled off him and started talking to my girl again. I actually have a hard time remembering why the set didn't go anywhere. I think the group had to leave and so my girl did too. I hadn't talked to her long enough to get an number close so that's that.
Shy Filipina girl:
This set surprised me because I'm usually not attracted to Filipina women. Also, while I suspected there was a chance she was Filipina, I didn't quite figure it out right away. As I told her, I usually can spot my own kind. She was really cute and I guess the shyness attracted me too even though it was a pain. Maybe it's the innocence that the shyness implied that attracted me as well. I remember that I opened her and we started talking. She introduced me to her brother. She must have been an older sister cause he didn't try to screen me at all. We kept talking. I kept trying to get close to her but she moved away so then I had to roll back so I didn't seem needy. There were times when I felt it wasn't going anywhere, but then she started to invest bit by bit. I'd stop talking and then she'd start asking me questions which is a big IOI.
We were standing in this dance floor area so it was really loud. I enjoyed the conversation and I wanted to continue so I decided to try for the isolation move. Also, in my mind the whole night, I've been making myself go for the isolation move. Even with that girl in with the Indian boyfriend, I tried to move her to the dance floor. I point to the outdoor area and told her that they convert it to an open air patio in the summer by removing the roof. I had heard a waitress telling a nearby table that earlier. I told her that she she come with me cause I wanted to show her something.
Part of me didn't think she was gonna come, but she slowly came. I had to keep directing her out there. I think I got screwed by how empty that area was. No one was there except a bouncer who was staring at us. I told her to sit down. She said that maybe she should get back to her friends. I said, "You act like we're halfway across the world. Your friend are right there." They were within 10 feet of us, but it was quieter out here. I thought I was ready to really be able to have a conversation, but then she takes a sip of her drink and says, "This drink doesn't taste good. I have to go back in and get another."
I felt like I had gotten blown off. I figured she just got too nervous and wanted to leave but I also didn't want to be standing there waiting so I left. I suppose I should have opened her again but we ended up leaving the venue. She did like me so I have to admit it was dumb not to open here. In my defense, we wanted to get back to Lion Head and we ended up getting there with seconds to spare before they close the doors.
I even got opened on the dance floor again:
This should be a bigger deal but I progressed more in the other sets so that's why this is just an afterthought. After the girl with the Indian boyfriend left me, I had gone to the dance floor. There were about eight people on there and I was just dancing by myself. Suddenly, this decent looking blonde just approached me. She smiled and said hi. We started dancing a little and we also talked. She seemed cool. She traveled in Asia including the Philippines. I wanted to get off the dance floor so I tried to isolate her off, but she said she had to find her friends.
I saw her dancing with some guy and grinding with him occasionally. I figured that I guess she wanted me to grind with her. I also could have kept talking and dancing with her instead of trying the isolation move too early. It's still cool that I got approached twice this week. It's so rare for that to happen. I guess I'm giving out solid vibes now.
I was just holding myself back:
That seems to be my lesson with every breakthrough lately. At least I figured out and accepted why I have been spinning my wheels this past week. Going for the isolation and escalation to kiss close feels easier now. I can tell I'll make the effort every time now and I don't feel like it's a big deal. I know it's better to make that move instead of just sitting there playing it safe and getting stuck in some 20-30 minute set that doesn't go anywhere. Beyond that, getting rejected doesn't even hurt that badly. The one girl just moved my hand away cause she was uncomfortable with the hair touching , but she still wanted to talk for awhile. I fumbled the kiss with that girl at the end of the night but it wasn't even a big deal.
Before I went out, I found this post from Papa on the RSD forums that helped me get in the right mindset. Let me close with that quote:
You gotta always pull the trigger when you have the question in your mind of if you should. The answer is always YES. The girl will always forgive you if you take a shot too early, but you will automatically be put into the friend zone if you are viewed as being too unconfident in yourself for at least trying to escalate things. Plus, it feels a lot better to know if things work out as opposed to the regret of never knowing. The never knowing is the only regrets you'll have in life.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
"Hey man, I need this chair..." "I need you too"
Tonight was a night of breakthroughs. I was frustrated cause I haven't been moving things forward and Friday night, I was determined to practice isolation and escalation. I'll start with the story about the title of this post. We had eaten pizza and this new place on Lincoln Ave called "Big Stuff." BTW, Seagull and I now love that place. Late night pizza is usually a rip off affair, $5 for a small slice of pizza. This place offers a $3 slice that dwarfs any other slice out there, and the $5 slice is of ridiculous proportions. It's big enough to even satisfy my fat ass. I'll definitely be there often and I hope to extract girls there for food.
Anyway, I was content with going home after a decent night but we decided to hit Wicker Park. Seagull spotted this 2-set and decided to open them. I didn't want to stand around doing nothing so I opened this blonde. She was larger than the girls I'd normally go for but she was cute. Her tits were hanging out of this dress too which was hot. When I opened her, I immediately noticed she was high buying temperature. It's the way she held my hand longer than most girls when I introduced myself and just the eye contact. The friends went outside for a smoke and I had isolation with her. Soon, I was stroking her hair so I felt like I was gonna kiss close. The other girls had asked me to save their seats. I was also saving a 3rd chair for me.
Suddenly, someone starts grabbing the chair saying, "Hey, can I get this chair?"
I immediately say, "No, I need that chair" and I grab onto it.
Seagull and suddenly notice that we are talking to each other. He grabs the chair and says that he could really use my help. I know that the 2-set must be good or he wouldn't tell me that. I felt torn cause that had to be a good set, but I felt like I was gonna kiss close this girl. I decided I'd try to kiss close and then go help him. It felt like 5 minutes, but I guess it was 15-20 minutes. I number closed the girl and then I started stroking her hair and I went in for the kiss. I'm embarassed to say I kind of missed. It's be awhile... I ended up kissing the right corner of her mouth. She didn't turn away at least, but she felt it was too soon. We kept talking though and then one friend returned and pulled her to the bathroom. I didn't want to wait around so I opened another set.
I saw Seagull talking to some guy. I figured the dude had either come into the set or Seagull was using him as a wing since I hadn't shown up to help him. Seagull eventually extracted that set for food and I tagged along. It turns out that was a different set he opened. When I drove him home, Seagull told me that the 2-set was on. It sounds like we had a chance to pull that set if I had gotten there in time. His girl was totally into him. She had responded enthusiastically to his kino and was touching him. The friend had started to get bored. This is the point where I asked him how he lost the set when I left my set in 5 minutes. He said it was way longer as the other girl had gone to the bathroom and returned and hung out in the time he had grabbed the chair. They had left and I still hadn't joined him.
Our only other 2-set possibility was earlier in the night. I was in this set with this cute Filipina. Seagull felt it was on but one of his AFC friends who had shown up had tried to wing and failed. Seagull said the AFC friend just stopped talking at one point.
Anyway, I was content with going home after a decent night but we decided to hit Wicker Park. Seagull spotted this 2-set and decided to open them. I didn't want to stand around doing nothing so I opened this blonde. She was larger than the girls I'd normally go for but she was cute. Her tits were hanging out of this dress too which was hot. When I opened her, I immediately noticed she was high buying temperature. It's the way she held my hand longer than most girls when I introduced myself and just the eye contact. The friends went outside for a smoke and I had isolation with her. Soon, I was stroking her hair so I felt like I was gonna kiss close. The other girls had asked me to save their seats. I was also saving a 3rd chair for me.
Suddenly, someone starts grabbing the chair saying, "Hey, can I get this chair?"
I immediately say, "No, I need that chair" and I grab onto it.
Seagull and suddenly notice that we are talking to each other. He grabs the chair and says that he could really use my help. I know that the 2-set must be good or he wouldn't tell me that. I felt torn cause that had to be a good set, but I felt like I was gonna kiss close this girl. I decided I'd try to kiss close and then go help him. It felt like 5 minutes, but I guess it was 15-20 minutes. I number closed the girl and then I started stroking her hair and I went in for the kiss. I'm embarassed to say I kind of missed. It's be awhile... I ended up kissing the right corner of her mouth. She didn't turn away at least, but she felt it was too soon. We kept talking though and then one friend returned and pulled her to the bathroom. I didn't want to wait around so I opened another set.
I saw Seagull talking to some guy. I figured the dude had either come into the set or Seagull was using him as a wing since I hadn't shown up to help him. Seagull eventually extracted that set for food and I tagged along. It turns out that was a different set he opened. When I drove him home, Seagull told me that the 2-set was on. It sounds like we had a chance to pull that set if I had gotten there in time. His girl was totally into him. She had responded enthusiastically to his kino and was touching him. The friend had started to get bored. This is the point where I asked him how he lost the set when I left my set in 5 minutes. He said it was way longer as the other girl had gone to the bathroom and returned and hung out in the time he had grabbed the chair. They had left and I still hadn't joined him.
Our only other 2-set possibility was earlier in the night. I was in this set with this cute Filipina. Seagull felt it was on but one of his AFC friends who had shown up had tried to wing and failed. Seagull said the AFC friend just stopped talking at one point.
Friday, April 1, 2011
Time to try to kiss close every set
I guess I had a decent Thursday night. I opened sets and a few girls seemed to be into me. That blonde in the white dress seemed to be high buying temperature too and there was just something sexy about her even though she's not my type other than being blonde.
I have to admit that I'm starting to feel that frustration I felt last year. I'm actually sarging better than at the end of last summer due to fixing some inner game issues and the sheer volume of sarging I've been doing. I'm even having a blast and having no problems going out solo.
Still, I feel like I should be doing more. Pulling girls for SNL would be nice, but I know that will happen eventually. As I keep writing, though, I need to be kiss closing before SNL extractions can even be possible. I think it's time to try that challenge I heard about three years ago.
I remember seeing this video with "Lovedrop," one of Mystery's wings who talked about learning kissing calibration by trying to kiss close every set. That seemed like such a crazy mission to try, but I see that it's what I need to do now. I've been showing a lot more intent, especially during the opener, and it's helped me. I'm doing enough right that it seems that just about every night, there's a set that seems totally on. I just have failed to make something more happen for whatever reason. Wednesday, the friends walked in at a bad time with the really high buying temperature girl, but I should have pushed for the kiss close sooner with the traveling Polish girl.
I feel like I'm spinning my wheels cause I do the same shit every night now. It's good I'm an approach machine again. My game is good enough that girls generally like me when I open them, and a good amount really start to display IOI's. I think I just need to kino escalate more and faster. I need to go for the kiss so I can learn this calibration. Sure, I'm afraid of rejection, but getting rejected is a good thing. It'll give me reference experience: I'll know when I went to soon for the kiss. This post I just read on RSD talked about how sometimes you'll be surprised how many girls well let you kiss them when you think it's not really on.
I'll close by saying I seem to be doing everything right at the moment except for that dance floor anxiety that pops up, and not pushing for the kiss close. If I want to improve, I gotta take on this challenge and really push to get some reference experience.
I have to admit that I'm starting to feel that frustration I felt last year. I'm actually sarging better than at the end of last summer due to fixing some inner game issues and the sheer volume of sarging I've been doing. I'm even having a blast and having no problems going out solo.
Still, I feel like I should be doing more. Pulling girls for SNL would be nice, but I know that will happen eventually. As I keep writing, though, I need to be kiss closing before SNL extractions can even be possible. I think it's time to try that challenge I heard about three years ago.
I remember seeing this video with "Lovedrop," one of Mystery's wings who talked about learning kissing calibration by trying to kiss close every set. That seemed like such a crazy mission to try, but I see that it's what I need to do now. I've been showing a lot more intent, especially during the opener, and it's helped me. I'm doing enough right that it seems that just about every night, there's a set that seems totally on. I just have failed to make something more happen for whatever reason. Wednesday, the friends walked in at a bad time with the really high buying temperature girl, but I should have pushed for the kiss close sooner with the traveling Polish girl.
I feel like I'm spinning my wheels cause I do the same shit every night now. It's good I'm an approach machine again. My game is good enough that girls generally like me when I open them, and a good amount really start to display IOI's. I think I just need to kino escalate more and faster. I need to go for the kiss so I can learn this calibration. Sure, I'm afraid of rejection, but getting rejected is a good thing. It'll give me reference experience: I'll know when I went to soon for the kiss. This post I just read on RSD talked about how sometimes you'll be surprised how many girls well let you kiss them when you think it's not really on.
I'll close by saying I seem to be doing everything right at the moment except for that dance floor anxiety that pops up, and not pushing for the kiss close. If I want to improve, I gotta take on this challenge and really push to get some reference experience.
Short night filled with stalled sets
I started out late. By the time I walked into my first bar in Lincoln Park, it was about 11:15PM. I went to this place O'malley's cause it has a $2 cheeseburger and $1 burger special and $2 drinks. I sat by myself and ate and saw a bunch of mixed sets in the place. I knew I wasn't gonna stay there to sarge. After I ate, it was shortly before midnight when I walked into Lion Head/The Apartment.
I opened several sets early on in Lion Head. The girls seemed to like me off the bat, but the first set had friends show up that were ready to leave. Another two set seemed to be going okay but the obstacle didn't like me. There were two highlights here, I guess.
Opened this hot fresh 21 year old blonde:
I remember going to the bathroom downstairs. As I was walking in, I spotted two sets I could work with. One had this average looking blonde and a darker girl, and there was also this 3-set with this really cute blonde. When I came out, I almost went the set that seemed easier, the 2-set, but something clicked in my head. I told myself that I go for the girls I really want. This would reinforce why I should always do that. I went up to this adorable blonde and she seemed to be into me right away. She seemed flushed from the direct opener, kind of like this tall girl I opened last Friday. It was like her face was flushed when I opened her and she kept smiling. I had briefly talked to the friends, but I guess I didn't win them over enough.
I sat down at the table and I seemed to have mini-isolation with my girl as the other two girls were talking to each other. Suddenly, one of them says she wants to go to the bathroom. I got a huge IOI in that my girl didn't want to go. Bathroom girls asked her several times and my girl finally said they'd wait for her here. About 30 seconds after that girl finally went to the bathroom, my target felt bad about it or something, or I had allowed the set to stall cause of this BS, and she said she had to join her. I was left with this cute girl who still had braces which I thought was hot actually. She started talking to me, but then she decided to go to the bathroom too. WTF.
I've gotten the bathroom blow off countless times in my days but I felt like my target and the braces girl liked me. I guess I just didn't hook that 3rd girls. It was obvious that at least 2 of the 3 girls didn't want to leave me but felt the social pressure of that 3rd girl. Maybe I should have tried to isolate my girl upstairs to the dance floor right off the bat.
2-set, picked wrong target:
I opened that 2-set. I ended up spending a good amount of time in the set. They had this beer tower thing that holds 100 ounces of beer. It's a deal on Thursdays cause it's only $10. Not as good of a deal as Joe's on Tues, but still good. They gave me some free beer. I decided to go for the blonde chick, which was a mistake. She was Polish so I liked her, but it sounded like she was in love with some guy later on. The darker chick was Albanian and actually was pretty cute, even though she wasn't the type I usually like. I mentioned one of my wings. It's a trick I think Style used to use. You accomplishment intro your friends even if they aren't there cause you sound cool if you have cool friends. She seemed like she wanted to meet him. She obviously is looking for a guy. I felt like I chose the wrong girl cause ultimately the blonde wouldn't give me her number. I think if I had focused on the Albanian girl, I might have succeeded there.
I was happy with this set cause I tried several times for the venue change, even when I saw them outside. That's the shit I need to be doing consistently. It's not a big deal whether they accept or not. I love putting it out there.
It's on, but dance floor approach anxiety rears it's ugly head!
I went to after hours. I got on the dance floor even though I didn't like the music. There was this blonde that in a white dress that I found really attractive. She had a little baby fat as she had a small stomach that you could see, but she was sexy at the same time. I'm normally not into breasts, but her dress really highlighted her probably "C" cup boobs. I'm not really into round asses, I generally like them a little smaller, but she had a nice round ass. I guess you'd say she had a few extra pounds, but most of it was in the right places. The black dudes kept staring at her cause that's what they generally like. The friend was bigger and not really attractive.
Those two were on the dance floor. I was out there, but I didn't really open anyone. This chick I wasn't attracted to at all started dancing close to me, but I didn't respond. In retrospect, I should have danced with her and used that social proof to dance with the cute girls on the dance floor.
I saw my 2-set by the bar. Too bad I hadn't spotted them sooner cause I approached at a bad time. They were ready to go outside. My target responded very well. I used the Intent Intro opener, "You are adorable, I wanted to meet you." As I shook her hand as we exchanged names, she held onto me hand longer than most girls do. I had picked a bad time, though, as she was putting her coat on as I opened her. BTW, she thanked me after the compliment and smiled as we looked into each others eyes. She said they were going outside. She caressed my shoulder as she followed her friend.
They came back on the dance floor, and I felt dance floor AA. Prior to them coming, I was on the dance floor as I didn't want to be standing by the bar waiting for them to return. These two Latina chicks were dancing near me. The shorter one kept getting close to me and I kept thinking about opening, but fear just kept holding me back. She moved pretty close to me several times but I didn't do anything and they eventually left. Then, my set came onto the dance floor. I pretended not to notice them. Of course, I saw them. I know the move, I guess. I needed to start dancing with both girls. It seems so hard when I'm actually out there. I guess I can picture in my head how to do it. I start dancing near them and start making eye contact and then I follow what Playersupreme demonstrates. Since it's a 2-set, I switch off between the girls. I couldn't open so I just high fived my girl and kept dancing by myself. Unfortunately, they left the bar shortly afterwards.
No regular AA:
As there was nothing at my usual spot, I checked out this Irish bar around the corner. The only set I had to work with was this mixed 3-set. I almost didn't open them but I figured I walked in, so I might as well do it. I used the cologne mixed set opener and I quickly had my own conversation going with one of the girls. She didn't seem to be into me. Part of the problem was I didn't get close to her and show intent. I guess it was a mixture of the presence of the guy plus, she wedged between two chairs. I thought about how the Community wisdom is not to have a girl feel trapped. For example, you don't talk to a girl where she's wedged in a corner. I felt this was similar though I guess next time I should just move the chair. She didn't respond to my verbal game and the guy and girl joined into our conversation. I guess I could have kept trying to work things but I stalled out and left.
There was this decently cute chubby girl that I had to squeeze by just before I opened this mixed set. She was smiling at me when I talked to her briefly but that was a mixed set also. Maybe I could have worked that instead of going for the mixed set above. I looked for this girl after I Left the set above, but couldn't find them.
I opened several sets early on in Lion Head. The girls seemed to like me off the bat, but the first set had friends show up that were ready to leave. Another two set seemed to be going okay but the obstacle didn't like me. There were two highlights here, I guess.
Opened this hot fresh 21 year old blonde:
I remember going to the bathroom downstairs. As I was walking in, I spotted two sets I could work with. One had this average looking blonde and a darker girl, and there was also this 3-set with this really cute blonde. When I came out, I almost went the set that seemed easier, the 2-set, but something clicked in my head. I told myself that I go for the girls I really want. This would reinforce why I should always do that. I went up to this adorable blonde and she seemed to be into me right away. She seemed flushed from the direct opener, kind of like this tall girl I opened last Friday. It was like her face was flushed when I opened her and she kept smiling. I had briefly talked to the friends, but I guess I didn't win them over enough.
I sat down at the table and I seemed to have mini-isolation with my girl as the other two girls were talking to each other. Suddenly, one of them says she wants to go to the bathroom. I got a huge IOI in that my girl didn't want to go. Bathroom girls asked her several times and my girl finally said they'd wait for her here. About 30 seconds after that girl finally went to the bathroom, my target felt bad about it or something, or I had allowed the set to stall cause of this BS, and she said she had to join her. I was left with this cute girl who still had braces which I thought was hot actually. She started talking to me, but then she decided to go to the bathroom too. WTF.
I've gotten the bathroom blow off countless times in my days but I felt like my target and the braces girl liked me. I guess I just didn't hook that 3rd girls. It was obvious that at least 2 of the 3 girls didn't want to leave me but felt the social pressure of that 3rd girl. Maybe I should have tried to isolate my girl upstairs to the dance floor right off the bat.
2-set, picked wrong target:
I opened that 2-set. I ended up spending a good amount of time in the set. They had this beer tower thing that holds 100 ounces of beer. It's a deal on Thursdays cause it's only $10. Not as good of a deal as Joe's on Tues, but still good. They gave me some free beer. I decided to go for the blonde chick, which was a mistake. She was Polish so I liked her, but it sounded like she was in love with some guy later on. The darker chick was Albanian and actually was pretty cute, even though she wasn't the type I usually like. I mentioned one of my wings. It's a trick I think Style used to use. You accomplishment intro your friends even if they aren't there cause you sound cool if you have cool friends. She seemed like she wanted to meet him. She obviously is looking for a guy. I felt like I chose the wrong girl cause ultimately the blonde wouldn't give me her number. I think if I had focused on the Albanian girl, I might have succeeded there.
I was happy with this set cause I tried several times for the venue change, even when I saw them outside. That's the shit I need to be doing consistently. It's not a big deal whether they accept or not. I love putting it out there.
It's on, but dance floor approach anxiety rears it's ugly head!
I went to after hours. I got on the dance floor even though I didn't like the music. There was this blonde that in a white dress that I found really attractive. She had a little baby fat as she had a small stomach that you could see, but she was sexy at the same time. I'm normally not into breasts, but her dress really highlighted her probably "C" cup boobs. I'm not really into round asses, I generally like them a little smaller, but she had a nice round ass. I guess you'd say she had a few extra pounds, but most of it was in the right places. The black dudes kept staring at her cause that's what they generally like. The friend was bigger and not really attractive.
Those two were on the dance floor. I was out there, but I didn't really open anyone. This chick I wasn't attracted to at all started dancing close to me, but I didn't respond. In retrospect, I should have danced with her and used that social proof to dance with the cute girls on the dance floor.
I saw my 2-set by the bar. Too bad I hadn't spotted them sooner cause I approached at a bad time. They were ready to go outside. My target responded very well. I used the Intent Intro opener, "You are adorable, I wanted to meet you." As I shook her hand as we exchanged names, she held onto me hand longer than most girls do. I had picked a bad time, though, as she was putting her coat on as I opened her. BTW, she thanked me after the compliment and smiled as we looked into each others eyes. She said they were going outside. She caressed my shoulder as she followed her friend.
They came back on the dance floor, and I felt dance floor AA. Prior to them coming, I was on the dance floor as I didn't want to be standing by the bar waiting for them to return. These two Latina chicks were dancing near me. The shorter one kept getting close to me and I kept thinking about opening, but fear just kept holding me back. She moved pretty close to me several times but I didn't do anything and they eventually left. Then, my set came onto the dance floor. I pretended not to notice them. Of course, I saw them. I know the move, I guess. I needed to start dancing with both girls. It seems so hard when I'm actually out there. I guess I can picture in my head how to do it. I start dancing near them and start making eye contact and then I follow what Playersupreme demonstrates. Since it's a 2-set, I switch off between the girls. I couldn't open so I just high fived my girl and kept dancing by myself. Unfortunately, they left the bar shortly afterwards.
No regular AA:
As there was nothing at my usual spot, I checked out this Irish bar around the corner. The only set I had to work with was this mixed 3-set. I almost didn't open them but I figured I walked in, so I might as well do it. I used the cologne mixed set opener and I quickly had my own conversation going with one of the girls. She didn't seem to be into me. Part of the problem was I didn't get close to her and show intent. I guess it was a mixture of the presence of the guy plus, she wedged between two chairs. I thought about how the Community wisdom is not to have a girl feel trapped. For example, you don't talk to a girl where she's wedged in a corner. I felt this was similar though I guess next time I should just move the chair. She didn't respond to my verbal game and the guy and girl joined into our conversation. I guess I could have kept trying to work things but I stalled out and left.
There was this decently cute chubby girl that I had to squeeze by just before I opened this mixed set. She was smiling at me when I talked to her briefly but that was a mixed set also. Maybe I could have worked that instead of going for the mixed set above. I looked for this girl after I Left the set above, but couldn't find them.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Most people don't know how to dance
There's this guy I found on youtube that has some decent free stuff out there. I was thinking tonight that one day in the future, I'm gonna give the guy the money for the DVD. The two videos of his that I watched helped me a ton. He explained how you try to just use 2-3 moves per song and then switch them when the songs switch. I know about 4 dance moves so the DVD would give me a ton more. The other good point I got from him was switching styles between certain parts of the song. When the artist is singing you can do a basic slide, and then you can body rock for the refrain.
Anyway, I remember watching the guy dancers they had at this club. I'm watching them and was surprised to see that they weren't that much better than me. The only thing they had was decent muscle tone and an attractive chest. They weren't totally ripped either, but I'm sure the girls found them attractive. I watched the girls too and a lot of them just repeat the same dance moves. Of course, the guys are just looking at the hotties shaking their asses (breasts too, but I love watching them wiggle their asses).
The only reason I make this post is that I realized that I also gained a lot of confidence from realizing that most people don't really know how to dance. I suppose one could criticize this confidence as ego based. If I believe what TD/Owen says in The Blueprint, I shouldn't get confidence from comparing myself to others. I should find it from with in and I think I have done that also when it involves dancing.
I think the hired guns, both male and female, did a good job. I just used to think that everyone knew how to dance except me. I just turns out that these people getting paid aren't even awesome dancers. I realize watching them isn't gonna be watching Justin Timberlake, though.
The one thing I need to practice, though, is dancing with girls and then transitioning to grinding and escalating to the kiss. I can dance all night by myself but I fumble with this. I know it's a lot easier when I bring the girl to the dance floor as it's usually on at that point. I want to be able to do the PlayerSupreme dance floor opener and then get a girl attracted to me solely from dance floor escalation.
Let me close by saying that it amuses me to no end that I love dancing now. Some of my college friends probably wouldn't believe it as they remembered how I hated it. If I can get this dance floor game, then I'll have even more girls to choose from in the club. It'll be cool to be able to open both verbally and on the dance floor and be able to bring girls between the two areas and be competent at both.
Anyway, I remember watching the guy dancers they had at this club. I'm watching them and was surprised to see that they weren't that much better than me. The only thing they had was decent muscle tone and an attractive chest. They weren't totally ripped either, but I'm sure the girls found them attractive. I watched the girls too and a lot of them just repeat the same dance moves. Of course, the guys are just looking at the hotties shaking their asses (breasts too, but I love watching them wiggle their asses).
The only reason I make this post is that I realized that I also gained a lot of confidence from realizing that most people don't really know how to dance. I suppose one could criticize this confidence as ego based. If I believe what TD/Owen says in The Blueprint, I shouldn't get confidence from comparing myself to others. I should find it from with in and I think I have done that also when it involves dancing.
I think the hired guns, both male and female, did a good job. I just used to think that everyone knew how to dance except me. I just turns out that these people getting paid aren't even awesome dancers. I realize watching them isn't gonna be watching Justin Timberlake, though.
The one thing I need to practice, though, is dancing with girls and then transitioning to grinding and escalating to the kiss. I can dance all night by myself but I fumble with this. I know it's a lot easier when I bring the girl to the dance floor as it's usually on at that point. I want to be able to do the PlayerSupreme dance floor opener and then get a girl attracted to me solely from dance floor escalation.
Let me close by saying that it amuses me to no end that I love dancing now. Some of my college friends probably wouldn't believe it as they remembered how I hated it. If I can get this dance floor game, then I'll have even more girls to choose from in the club. It'll be cool to be able to open both verbally and on the dance floor and be able to bring girls between the two areas and be competent at both.
From angry mood from poker to Owning the club
Last night started out horribly. I played poker for the first time in months. I was hoping for a good start but I suppose this is better in certain ways. I made a horrible tight-weak fold cause I was out of practice. A fish bet 20 in to a 115 pot and I folded a winner. Then, I want to leave cause the table is shitty but I know I have a chance to take this other guy's money. I also wanted to put in a few hours before I went to the bar. I get KK and bust out into AA. Beautiful.
Standard stupid poker story, but I mention it cause I was in a horrible mood. I was just pissed off at myself for the bad play and then for not leaving. You should always leave if you don't want to play, especially if it's a tight table. I was halfway to Cadillac Ranch though so I figured I might as well go. I knew it was gonna be a challenge to snap out of it, but I also knew Caddy has good drink specials.
I walked in and there was no cover. I ordered my drink. I saw several sets but I knew I was still pissed so I didn't want to ruin those sets until I fixed my state. The alcohol helped. Since I had 3 2-sets to deal with, I decided to recruit this guy to be my wing. I had talked to him briefly while ordering my drink. As I looked around for potential wings, he seemed to be the most chill guy in my field of vision.
I guess I chose well as he did a good job holding the attention of the obstacle in my first set.
Traveling Polish Girl:
I love Polish girls and I somehow always end up finding them whenever I want. The two set was a blonde and a brunette and I really hit it off with the brunette. I had told my new wing to show up if I was in a set for a few mins. It's good that I did that as he showed up and started talking to the blonde after I introduced him. Thinking back on it, I was ignoring her cause I was really captivated by the brunette (let't call her 'Travel girl'.). He actually gave me isolation too as he went outside to smoke with the blonde.
Travel girl had actually been to Vietnam and Cambodia so we shared some stories. Her favorite food is hamburgers and she hadn't heard of my usual favorite places: Paramount Room, Kuma's and Paradise Pup. I actually should have number closed her there, but I didn't.
Later, I find out she's going to Australia for 3 months in a week. That put the damper on a number close in my mind. I felt like I needed to try to pull her tonight cause the number was gonna be useless. Thinking about it now, I probably should have number closed her when the burgers came up and seen what happened.
We were having great conversation but the blonde was ready to leave. I felt like I could talk to travel girl for hours but we didn't have that "it's on" moment that I always talk about. That would happen crazily in another set.
Here's where I'm somewhat of a dumb ass. I know they are about to leave. This Lady Gaga song comes on that I like and I want to dance. I try to pull her over there and she doesn't want to go. I went to go dance to it. Then I took a piss and this other song I really like came on, so I danced to that. BTW, the dance floor was completely empty but it didn't stop me from going out there. Unfortunately, the girls left by the time I went to look for them. That wing guy left to, I wonder if he was smart enough to venue change them.
Part of me thought about how RSD Tim talked about how he likes to be unpredictable at the club. He talks about wandering off at random times. I think it was okay to wander off, but not when I know they are minutes from leaving.
I guess I opened girls on the dance floor:
When I saw my girls had left, I went back on the dance floor. I danced for a song and then walked up to this 4-set as this song I liked was playing. There was a cute brunette there. I did the intent intro opener on her. She was there for another girls birthday. I tried getting my target to dance but she said she hated this Jay Sean song that was on. I then wandered to this neighboring set. It was a bunch of fat girls but they were having fun dancing. I just started dancing with them. I was in a grinding sandwich at one point. I left after a song cause I wanted to try to find something better. I'm not opposed to hooking up with fat girls; I've done it in the past and it helped me out. I just don't feel like I need to get laid that badly right now. I'm cool just heading home to a porno if I can't pull a good looking girl.
Girls opened me on the dance floor:
Like three different girls started dancing with me on the dance floor. This shy Asian girl came for like 10 seconds and then giggled and ran off. The one of interest was this Latina girls with dyed blonde hair. She and a friend approached me on the dance floor. The friend was large, but the Latina girl was cute. I dance with the Latina one for a bit and then the fat one as I know you're supposed to dance with both girls. The fat one ended up wandering off and leaving me with this girl. I danced for like two songs but I needed a break at this point. I tried to pull her off the dance floor but she didn't want to go. I didn't really grind with her. Perhaps I should have escalated more. I had put my arm on her shoulder and I put my hands on her waist but that was it.
I opened the hottest girl in the club with no hesitation:
Of course, it's subjective who the hottest girl in the club was, but this was the girl I'd want out of all the ones there. This random guy that I was friendly with is the one who said she was the hottest one in the club when I kept point her out. There was this seated 3-set early in the night with this thin, adorable blonde. I opened her. She started telling me that she does this pyro show for the club. Reading "The Game," made me say, "Does she always brag like this?" to the friends and of course they giggled. I probably should have used Mystery's neg too as this girl needed it. It was too bad I realized they were hired guns when I was already in the set.
My girl was boring though. She doesn't travel and doesn't do much really. She told me she wasn't even 21 and mentioned work again. I've been told a lot of hot girls having boring personalities. Obviously, that's not always true, but supposedly, many hot girls don't have fully developed personalities cause they've been taken care off from a very early age. Guys always want to do stuff for them and they are always the center of attention.
I ended up leaving the set but I guess I wasn't really busted out. Well, maybe. I remember her saying, "I'm just here to work."
About fifteen minutes later, I saw the girl doing her show. She was on the dance floor with this huge hula hoop with flashing lights. She was adorable. The club also had two shirtless male dancers come out and four hot girl dancers, but this blonde was hotter than those girls. The girls they hire are these petite girls with nice little asses in like lingerie bottoms. They are hot, but they seem to be equivalent to girls I see out on a Friday night. Maybe 8's or 9's, but it's Bartlett, IL.
I was disappointed there was no fire, but later I saw her outside twirling this hula hoop around her that had real flames on it. The girl has some skills in addition to being a hottie.
Kiss close, but friends walked in :(
I kept thinking about this set and I'm convinced I was gonna go for the kiss, but maybe I should have moved sooner. I remember turning this corner at the bar and seeing this cute girl with blonde hair sitting on a chair. I did the Intent-intro opener and she responded well. Immediately, I could tell she had high buying temperature. She kept giggling and looking into my eyes. My kino was good for once. Usually, I'm slow but the high buying temperature alarm kicked my game into gear. I remember actually starting to get turned on, which doesn't happen that often when I approach. We talked about some stuff that I don't really remember. I just remember kinoing. I put my arm around her, and I swear she moved closer to me. I remember teasing her and then moving up close and looking down into her eyes in this dominant posture.
In my head, I'm screaming, "Yes, this is on." I was wondering where this was Tuesday. Haven't had a moment like this since Saturday. I'm getting ready to start stroking her hair to set up the kiss and then this girl and this guy walk up. I get introduced to the girl. The guy is just standing there. I never figured out their relation. I remember pizza got mentioned and my target walked over to the pizza. I'm chatting with the two friends and then suddenly the other girl walks away and I'm stuck talking to the guy. I think the other girl mentioned they were leaving soon. They must have left as I didn't see them again.
I guess I should have walked over to the pizza and tried to start things up again. If those damn friends had show up a few minutes later, I bet I would have been making out with this girl. It was so on.
That's the Pickup Artist moment. I just love when I'm in a set, and we're gazing into each others eye. I love how we can't stop smiling and giggling and my touch just seems to create more energy. Of course, there are other key moments, but this moment is the one that starts everything rolling.
Failed "Matrix" move:
I made what turned out ot be a creepy move on the dance floor, but I'm glad I made the attempt. I also think this experience is gonna help me out with dance floor approaches. I finally got to feel what a total blow off on the dance floor feels like. It's like that first rejection when I first approached. I feared about how it would feel and I know it's not that bad and not a big deal.
There was this 2-set on the dance floor that guys kept approaching. No one was getting anywhere until this black guy came up and started dancing the with the hotter girl. The other girl was cute too. She was standing there for a moment. My move would have been to come in then. I had sort of opened them earlier. I had high fived the girls but didn't try to dance with them. Instead, I kept dancing by myself and I saw this tall white dude come up. He was just standing there talking to her. He was saying enough to hold her attention, but he was leaning in and also he wasn't dancing.
In my head, I suddenly thought, "This is time for a Matrix move. My move is to get her dancing and spin her away from that guy."
I guess it was the competition that motivated me to do something. I was hesitant so it took me like 2-3 minutes, but I decided to go for it. I made my move wrong. If I were to try again, I'd dance more so she could see me and then make eye contact with her. I then move close and then try to spin her away. Instead, I just went in and grabbed her arm to try to spin her. I don't think she expected it so it was creepy. Blah. I moved to another part of the dance floor in embarassement.
Yeah, I made a shit move, but again, I'm happy I did. I'm sure I would have regretted not taking action. That's what hurts the most in sarging. I could have or should have done X, but instead I did nothing. If I'm willing to try something like this, then I should have no fear during the proper dance floor approach. Yeah, girls will blow me off, but girls will also dance with me. It's not like I haven't danced and grinded with girls before. The rejections won't be as bad as this one was so I have nothing to gear.
Owning the club:
I danced with this 3 girls near the end of the night. It was more of that friend circle dance as I never really separated the girls so I could dance with them individually. I had a blast though and totally changed my state. The poker bust off no longer bothered me and doesn't bother me now. I just loved how I got out there and did stuff alone. I recruited a random guy who winged me well. I created some other guy friends so I had a few bases to stop by. Now that I'm on the dance floor all the time, I really don't need bases anymore, but it's still fun.
If someone were observing me, it would not look like I came into the club alone. It would look like I knew a bunch of people there. Wow, how this game has changed me.
Let met just close by saying that some guy said I gave him the confidence to go on the dance floor. I used to fear getting on the dance floor cause I feared people making fun of me. I suppose it helps now that I have the general idea of dancing so I don't look like a fool. When I'm out there on an empty dance floor, girl have to notice. It shows a lot of confidence to do that. It's cool that I give guys confidence to get out there and dance too. I remember high fiving this guy later in the night cause he was out there by himself and that's what he said that he had seen me out there and felt comfortable coming out too.
Standard stupid poker story, but I mention it cause I was in a horrible mood. I was just pissed off at myself for the bad play and then for not leaving. You should always leave if you don't want to play, especially if it's a tight table. I was halfway to Cadillac Ranch though so I figured I might as well go. I knew it was gonna be a challenge to snap out of it, but I also knew Caddy has good drink specials.
I walked in and there was no cover. I ordered my drink. I saw several sets but I knew I was still pissed so I didn't want to ruin those sets until I fixed my state. The alcohol helped. Since I had 3 2-sets to deal with, I decided to recruit this guy to be my wing. I had talked to him briefly while ordering my drink. As I looked around for potential wings, he seemed to be the most chill guy in my field of vision.
I guess I chose well as he did a good job holding the attention of the obstacle in my first set.
Traveling Polish Girl:
I love Polish girls and I somehow always end up finding them whenever I want. The two set was a blonde and a brunette and I really hit it off with the brunette. I had told my new wing to show up if I was in a set for a few mins. It's good that I did that as he showed up and started talking to the blonde after I introduced him. Thinking back on it, I was ignoring her cause I was really captivated by the brunette (let't call her 'Travel girl'.). He actually gave me isolation too as he went outside to smoke with the blonde.
Travel girl had actually been to Vietnam and Cambodia so we shared some stories. Her favorite food is hamburgers and she hadn't heard of my usual favorite places: Paramount Room, Kuma's and Paradise Pup. I actually should have number closed her there, but I didn't.
Later, I find out she's going to Australia for 3 months in a week. That put the damper on a number close in my mind. I felt like I needed to try to pull her tonight cause the number was gonna be useless. Thinking about it now, I probably should have number closed her when the burgers came up and seen what happened.
We were having great conversation but the blonde was ready to leave. I felt like I could talk to travel girl for hours but we didn't have that "it's on" moment that I always talk about. That would happen crazily in another set.
Here's where I'm somewhat of a dumb ass. I know they are about to leave. This Lady Gaga song comes on that I like and I want to dance. I try to pull her over there and she doesn't want to go. I went to go dance to it. Then I took a piss and this other song I really like came on, so I danced to that. BTW, the dance floor was completely empty but it didn't stop me from going out there. Unfortunately, the girls left by the time I went to look for them. That wing guy left to, I wonder if he was smart enough to venue change them.
Part of me thought about how RSD Tim talked about how he likes to be unpredictable at the club. He talks about wandering off at random times. I think it was okay to wander off, but not when I know they are minutes from leaving.
I guess I opened girls on the dance floor:
When I saw my girls had left, I went back on the dance floor. I danced for a song and then walked up to this 4-set as this song I liked was playing. There was a cute brunette there. I did the intent intro opener on her. She was there for another girls birthday. I tried getting my target to dance but she said she hated this Jay Sean song that was on. I then wandered to this neighboring set. It was a bunch of fat girls but they were having fun dancing. I just started dancing with them. I was in a grinding sandwich at one point. I left after a song cause I wanted to try to find something better. I'm not opposed to hooking up with fat girls; I've done it in the past and it helped me out. I just don't feel like I need to get laid that badly right now. I'm cool just heading home to a porno if I can't pull a good looking girl.
Girls opened me on the dance floor:
Like three different girls started dancing with me on the dance floor. This shy Asian girl came for like 10 seconds and then giggled and ran off. The one of interest was this Latina girls with dyed blonde hair. She and a friend approached me on the dance floor. The friend was large, but the Latina girl was cute. I dance with the Latina one for a bit and then the fat one as I know you're supposed to dance with both girls. The fat one ended up wandering off and leaving me with this girl. I danced for like two songs but I needed a break at this point. I tried to pull her off the dance floor but she didn't want to go. I didn't really grind with her. Perhaps I should have escalated more. I had put my arm on her shoulder and I put my hands on her waist but that was it.
I opened the hottest girl in the club with no hesitation:
Of course, it's subjective who the hottest girl in the club was, but this was the girl I'd want out of all the ones there. This random guy that I was friendly with is the one who said she was the hottest one in the club when I kept point her out. There was this seated 3-set early in the night with this thin, adorable blonde. I opened her. She started telling me that she does this pyro show for the club. Reading "The Game," made me say, "Does she always brag like this?" to the friends and of course they giggled. I probably should have used Mystery's neg too as this girl needed it. It was too bad I realized they were hired guns when I was already in the set.
My girl was boring though. She doesn't travel and doesn't do much really. She told me she wasn't even 21 and mentioned work again. I've been told a lot of hot girls having boring personalities. Obviously, that's not always true, but supposedly, many hot girls don't have fully developed personalities cause they've been taken care off from a very early age. Guys always want to do stuff for them and they are always the center of attention.
I ended up leaving the set but I guess I wasn't really busted out. Well, maybe. I remember her saying, "I'm just here to work."
About fifteen minutes later, I saw the girl doing her show. She was on the dance floor with this huge hula hoop with flashing lights. She was adorable. The club also had two shirtless male dancers come out and four hot girl dancers, but this blonde was hotter than those girls. The girls they hire are these petite girls with nice little asses in like lingerie bottoms. They are hot, but they seem to be equivalent to girls I see out on a Friday night. Maybe 8's or 9's, but it's Bartlett, IL.
I was disappointed there was no fire, but later I saw her outside twirling this hula hoop around her that had real flames on it. The girl has some skills in addition to being a hottie.
Kiss close, but friends walked in :(
I kept thinking about this set and I'm convinced I was gonna go for the kiss, but maybe I should have moved sooner. I remember turning this corner at the bar and seeing this cute girl with blonde hair sitting on a chair. I did the Intent-intro opener and she responded well. Immediately, I could tell she had high buying temperature. She kept giggling and looking into my eyes. My kino was good for once. Usually, I'm slow but the high buying temperature alarm kicked my game into gear. I remember actually starting to get turned on, which doesn't happen that often when I approach. We talked about some stuff that I don't really remember. I just remember kinoing. I put my arm around her, and I swear she moved closer to me. I remember teasing her and then moving up close and looking down into her eyes in this dominant posture.
In my head, I'm screaming, "Yes, this is on." I was wondering where this was Tuesday. Haven't had a moment like this since Saturday. I'm getting ready to start stroking her hair to set up the kiss and then this girl and this guy walk up. I get introduced to the girl. The guy is just standing there. I never figured out their relation. I remember pizza got mentioned and my target walked over to the pizza. I'm chatting with the two friends and then suddenly the other girl walks away and I'm stuck talking to the guy. I think the other girl mentioned they were leaving soon. They must have left as I didn't see them again.
I guess I should have walked over to the pizza and tried to start things up again. If those damn friends had show up a few minutes later, I bet I would have been making out with this girl. It was so on.
That's the Pickup Artist moment. I just love when I'm in a set, and we're gazing into each others eye. I love how we can't stop smiling and giggling and my touch just seems to create more energy. Of course, there are other key moments, but this moment is the one that starts everything rolling.
Failed "Matrix" move:
I made what turned out ot be a creepy move on the dance floor, but I'm glad I made the attempt. I also think this experience is gonna help me out with dance floor approaches. I finally got to feel what a total blow off on the dance floor feels like. It's like that first rejection when I first approached. I feared about how it would feel and I know it's not that bad and not a big deal.
There was this 2-set on the dance floor that guys kept approaching. No one was getting anywhere until this black guy came up and started dancing the with the hotter girl. The other girl was cute too. She was standing there for a moment. My move would have been to come in then. I had sort of opened them earlier. I had high fived the girls but didn't try to dance with them. Instead, I kept dancing by myself and I saw this tall white dude come up. He was just standing there talking to her. He was saying enough to hold her attention, but he was leaning in and also he wasn't dancing.
In my head, I suddenly thought, "This is time for a Matrix move. My move is to get her dancing and spin her away from that guy."
I guess it was the competition that motivated me to do something. I was hesitant so it took me like 2-3 minutes, but I decided to go for it. I made my move wrong. If I were to try again, I'd dance more so she could see me and then make eye contact with her. I then move close and then try to spin her away. Instead, I just went in and grabbed her arm to try to spin her. I don't think she expected it so it was creepy. Blah. I moved to another part of the dance floor in embarassement.
Yeah, I made a shit move, but again, I'm happy I did. I'm sure I would have regretted not taking action. That's what hurts the most in sarging. I could have or should have done X, but instead I did nothing. If I'm willing to try something like this, then I should have no fear during the proper dance floor approach. Yeah, girls will blow me off, but girls will also dance with me. It's not like I haven't danced and grinded with girls before. The rejections won't be as bad as this one was so I have nothing to gear.
Owning the club:
I danced with this 3 girls near the end of the night. It was more of that friend circle dance as I never really separated the girls so I could dance with them individually. I had a blast though and totally changed my state. The poker bust off no longer bothered me and doesn't bother me now. I just loved how I got out there and did stuff alone. I recruited a random guy who winged me well. I created some other guy friends so I had a few bases to stop by. Now that I'm on the dance floor all the time, I really don't need bases anymore, but it's still fun.
If someone were observing me, it would not look like I came into the club alone. It would look like I knew a bunch of people there. Wow, how this game has changed me.
Let met just close by saying that some guy said I gave him the confidence to go on the dance floor. I used to fear getting on the dance floor cause I feared people making fun of me. I suppose it helps now that I have the general idea of dancing so I don't look like a fool. When I'm out there on an empty dance floor, girl have to notice. It shows a lot of confidence to do that. It's cool that I give guys confidence to get out there and dance too. I remember high fiving this guy later in the night cause he was out there by himself and that's what he said that he had seen me out there and felt comfortable coming out too.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Great deals at Joe's, but bad night sarging
I finally got out to Joe's on Weed St in Chicago. They have an awesome deal for Tuesdays. If you get there before 9pm, it's $3 cover. Pizzas are half price. We got an 18" 1/2 sausage pizza for like $8. We also had two pitchers of beer for $4. The beer is what is most ridiculous. I drank most of the 1st pitcher and I just gave away most of the 2nd pitcher to the people next to us cause I wanted to be able to driver home after closing.
I was out with Sidegames. I had him walk with me into this set but he had to go home and go to sleep as he works early. I opened a bunch of sets after eating. I guess the highlight of the night was this fat, short Latina girl liked me. I guess I opened her at some point after dinner. I remember that I was standing by the bathroom and when she walked by, she yelled out my name. Later, she saw me again and dragged me over to her friends. Her brother was there and a bunch of relatives. I didn't really feel like dealing with that for a girl that I didn't really want to hook up with so I left.
There were two other decent sets. My favorite was this girl from Germany. I felt like we had a good conversation going but then she suddenly said she had to get back to her friend. I thought it was a huge set, but when she left to go to the friend, I realized the friend had been standing there bored the whole time. The other set was this girl from New York. She walked away from me at one point. To my credit, I approached her again, but nothing happened.
I guess I need dance floor game. I was out on the dance floor a few times and there were some cute girls by me. I feel like such an idiot cause I just can't bring myself to open them. It's like a paralyzed when it comes to dance floor opening. I mention this every entry I think and every time I go out, I swear to myself that I'm gonna open some sets there.
Overall, it was a shitty night. I guess I gave it a good effort and one girl did like me. Tonight puts the other nights in perspective. Usually, there are 2-3 sets that are really on but tonight it was one, or I'd say, half a set. I was really hoping to try some kiss closes but I'm sure there will be some opportunities next time.
I was out with Sidegames. I had him walk with me into this set but he had to go home and go to sleep as he works early. I opened a bunch of sets after eating. I guess the highlight of the night was this fat, short Latina girl liked me. I guess I opened her at some point after dinner. I remember that I was standing by the bathroom and when she walked by, she yelled out my name. Later, she saw me again and dragged me over to her friends. Her brother was there and a bunch of relatives. I didn't really feel like dealing with that for a girl that I didn't really want to hook up with so I left.
There were two other decent sets. My favorite was this girl from Germany. I felt like we had a good conversation going but then she suddenly said she had to get back to her friend. I thought it was a huge set, but when she left to go to the friend, I realized the friend had been standing there bored the whole time. The other set was this girl from New York. She walked away from me at one point. To my credit, I approached her again, but nothing happened.
I guess I need dance floor game. I was out on the dance floor a few times and there were some cute girls by me. I feel like such an idiot cause I just can't bring myself to open them. It's like a paralyzed when it comes to dance floor opening. I mention this every entry I think and every time I go out, I swear to myself that I'm gonna open some sets there.
Overall, it was a shitty night. I guess I gave it a good effort and one girl did like me. Tonight puts the other nights in perspective. Usually, there are 2-3 sets that are really on but tonight it was one, or I'd say, half a set. I was really hoping to try some kiss closes but I'm sure there will be some opportunities next time.
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