There were many cool stories that I should have written about here. I'll try to make a quick summary of some key events that helped me get back. As mentioned in my last post, working out again, and halting the fat gain was a start. Next, I got motivated by the Jake's Deli contest. I had let my eating skills deteriorate as well and having a contest coming up helped motivate me to get things on track.
Free trip to ATL:
My close friend had talked about how he was going to go to Atlanta GA for training. He had mentioned doing this in November and then nothing came of it so I had forgotten about it. Suddenly, I checked my phone and found a text asking me if I wanted to go along on the trip. I could stay in the room for free, and unlike the Minnesota training trip, I didn't even need to get out to Atlanta as he was renting a vehicle and driving down, so that was free as well.
It's funny that I debated if I should go or not, but I knew that getting somewhere warm and just getting out of the house and away from my computer would help me out. Furthermore, there was a Pho challenge that awarded a gift card, and I had the possibility of trying a paid partner pizza challenge as well.
I got warmed up by going out the Friday and Saturday before. That Saturday was a crazy night in that a bunch of random events happened. For example, my promoter friend got two girls to come in a cab with us to the Mid, but one girl got in and the rest of us couldn't. The remaining girl took off in a taxi. In retrospect, I see that the move was to go with her then or to try to go grab food with her when it was clear we wouldn't get in. Then, some girls we had talked to early pulled up, and my promoter friend told them it was no good inside, so we hopped in. We went back to Sound Bar, and the girls were gonna pay $20 each to get in with 50 minutes left, but they were short like 10 dollars. I told them to forget it and just come grab food but they insisted on arguing to try to get in.
I literally had to leave for the trip in an hour, so I drove home and finished packing.
ATL RSD guys:
I met up with a guy who I guess goes out every night in Atlanta and posts on the RSD forums where he's going. There were three guys I met over two days in this crew and I have to say that all three were sociable, and more importantly, they were all trying. This included an apparent new guy who met up with the group for the first time.
Last night in ATL:
I started off being the second person to complete this Pho challenge. The prize was a free meal and a $100 gift card, but some girls we were talking to next to us offered to buy the remainder of the gift card ($65). I used $35 of it to pay for my friends drinks. I facebook closed this cute girl we were talking to next to us. We both tried to get the two girls to come out with us after the food challenge, but they had to work the next day and we were unsuccessful. The next day, my friend said that my target had said something like, "I'm 40 years old... too old to be staying out really late on a work night."
I was shocked. I would have sworn she was younger than me. I looked through her facebook pics and I could see how she could be 40, but she looks spectacular for that age. It seems that she's into fitness as I saw several pictures of her hiking and running races, though later she told me she wasn't that into running. I'm still in contact with her. She has a BF but I think if I do go back out there, I'd have a decent change of closing it if I can get her to meet up with me.
Earlier in the night, my friend had opened this wild, tall girl at the Coca Cola factory. I just remember thinking "Wow, this isn't that hard to just be out and open sets." I still think I need to just spend a night out here in Chicago and just do the same thing.
After the food challenge, we met up with the ATL crew. We started at a college bar with some college freshman. We all felt a bit uncomfortable: some because of the age difference, though I was the 2nd oldest and it didn't really bother me. What made it hard, was that it was early, so people hadn't gotten drunk, and the sets were just massive groups where everyone knew each other. A contributing factor of difficulty for me was there were a lot of Asian and South Asian girls. I'm not as into them and I'm more motivated to open white girls.
I proved this went we went to the Hip Hop club across the street. I immediately opened this cude blonde from Europe and was really talking to her man-to-woman instead of standing 3 feet away like I did the previous night.
Later, II kept grinding and trying to make out with this chubby girl at this hip hop club. It was weird with her in that it seemed like she let me kiss her, but she wasn't really into it and wasn't reciprocating. Still, that was a huge step for me. I was sober that whole night as well, yet I was opening strong and making moves.
Nashville Polish girl:
The next night we got a late start in Nashville. I had an interesting confrontation with some insecure drunk guy. Normally, I'd spent a ton of time writing about the incident. It was just interesting that it happened with my childhood friend there as we had been discussing how I handle confrontations at the bar on the drive down. He actually got to see how I handle it.
More importantly, my friend opened this Spanish girl who was with a Polish friend. I was getting along well with the Polish girl but she said early on that she had a boyfriend. They later left.
Fate would have it that we ran into them at the second venue. I guess it made sense as it was the only one on the block without the typical honky tonk (that's what the bars on that strip are colled) live music (mostly country). This club was playing regular club dance music. I saw my girl and immediately opened her and started dancing by her and the Spanish girl.
It turns out that if I had gone for the Spanish girl, I might have gotten laid. She was high buying temperature and starting making out with some guy that danced with her. I was focused on the Polish girl. I knew she had a boyfriend but I thought it didn't matter. Ultimately, I wasn't skilled enough to get her to forget about her man, but I got a spectacular set of compliments that really felt was a breakthrough.
"You are really good with girls."
She liked me, but she was committed to her boyfriend and I just wasn't skilled enough to make her get past though. (It's possible she just was that committed but I'd like to think that if I had guru level game, maybe I could have pulled her). Regardless, I gained confidence form the set. She kept giggling at everything I was saying.
I remember her smiling and saying at one point, "You are really funny!." She then followed with, "You are really good with girls."
In summary, I actually made myself really try to escalate in some sets, and this was a big breakthrough. Obviously, it was the extreme opposite of how I was Feb 13th, but it was a big step towards where I was at the end of the summer.
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Monday, March 23, 2015
Back in the hole
It's been awhile. I had a great 2014 and I really thought I'd never screw up again. I thought I'd never quit working out, for one thing. I planned on going out regularly. Instead, I ran out of energy from travelling too much, and allowed myself to get addicted to World of Warcraft. I also think/worry that I could have the type of bipolar disorder that has less severe mania. I've thought that for years, but my fitness guru Lyle McDonald posted that he finally accepted it and got treatment this past January.
Lyle sent an "Apology to the Internet" through his mailing list, and of course on his site bodyrecomposition.com Listening to him having to start over with working out and bringing himself out of a depression helped me get started one things as well. I started working out again and it's been a slow road. Late last year, I could run 20 miles easily, and I struggled to run 4-5 miles coming back. That was frustrating but at least I started then as opposed to waiting until 1-3 miles was tough. I've been slow to return to lifting.
Just this week, I got sick which is going to hurt my progress but at least I've turned things around on some level.
Feb 13th:
That's the day I returned to sarging after a several month absence and I knew it was gonna be rough since I was also coming out of just playing WoW and never really leaving the house. Asian Cousin happened to come in town that weekend and I went out with him and with Seagull. It was rough, but to my credit, I tried opening a few times.
Most of the time, I was just wandering around, feeling sorry for how far I had let myself sink. A few times, I remembered not even wanting to go wing and I remember getting into sets and not knowing what to say. In some ways, it was more brutal than when I was a newbie because I could contrast this with how things were just started to pick up when I quit last year.
Feb 13th wasn't as bad in retrospect, but it was enough that I was motivated to go out the next day, even though Asian Cousin text me, and so did my promoter friend.
Lyle sent an "Apology to the Internet" through his mailing list, and of course on his site bodyrecomposition.com Listening to him having to start over with working out and bringing himself out of a depression helped me get started one things as well. I started working out again and it's been a slow road. Late last year, I could run 20 miles easily, and I struggled to run 4-5 miles coming back. That was frustrating but at least I started then as opposed to waiting until 1-3 miles was tough. I've been slow to return to lifting.
Just this week, I got sick which is going to hurt my progress but at least I've turned things around on some level.
Feb 13th:
That's the day I returned to sarging after a several month absence and I knew it was gonna be rough since I was also coming out of just playing WoW and never really leaving the house. Asian Cousin happened to come in town that weekend and I went out with him and with Seagull. It was rough, but to my credit, I tried opening a few times.
Most of the time, I was just wandering around, feeling sorry for how far I had let myself sink. A few times, I remembered not even wanting to go wing and I remember getting into sets and not knowing what to say. In some ways, it was more brutal than when I was a newbie because I could contrast this with how things were just started to pick up when I quit last year.
Feb 13th wasn't as bad in retrospect, but it was enough that I was motivated to go out the next day, even though Asian Cousin text me, and so did my promoter friend.
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Did better Kino sat
I'm about to go to bed but I wanted to write a brief report on Saturday. I watched about two hours of videos to help me get focused on kino and escalating more. I found this really good video from the 21 Convention series that explained thing really well. I also went back to the old RSD Transformations and Ozzie's stuff about "running the train."
I went out with no cheat codes. The momentum from the past 3 days meant I didn't have any problems getting started.
I can tell I need more practice as I was awkward at times. I did kino more. I pulled one girl onto the dance floor. Another, I opened by the dance floor, and then I moved her to the bar and was trying to set up a kiss close.
I was frustrated at the end that I didn't make anything solid happen, but I realized that if I had been doing this much even just the three days prior, I might actually have gotten laid.
I even had a decent set going with this 6'3" swimmer girl.
It's going to be a hectic next few weeks. I ran into an old wing/promoter friend who I'm calling "Disney" now. That was on Friday. I found out that he now has a place in MN and he works there during the week. Coincidentally, I already had planned to go up there this upcoming week to pick up 12 cases of beer that I won from a brat contest. Now, I'm going up a day earlier (leaving in like 10 hours) so I can sarge with him. Then, I'm doing a pizza challenge with this eater I know up there, and then I'll go sarge again.
It's interesting how I now have 4 friends up in Minneapolis and another one I met through competitive eating is moving up there next summer.
Last week and these MN outings need to prepare me for solo sarging in Cleveland this weekend. Then, I'll be in FL and will really need to solo sarge.
I went out with no cheat codes. The momentum from the past 3 days meant I didn't have any problems getting started.
I can tell I need more practice as I was awkward at times. I did kino more. I pulled one girl onto the dance floor. Another, I opened by the dance floor, and then I moved her to the bar and was trying to set up a kiss close.
I was frustrated at the end that I didn't make anything solid happen, but I realized that if I had been doing this much even just the three days prior, I might actually have gotten laid.
I even had a decent set going with this 6'3" swimmer girl.
It's going to be a hectic next few weeks. I ran into an old wing/promoter friend who I'm calling "Disney" now. That was on Friday. I found out that he now has a place in MN and he works there during the week. Coincidentally, I already had planned to go up there this upcoming week to pick up 12 cases of beer that I won from a brat contest. Now, I'm going up a day earlier (leaving in like 10 hours) so I can sarge with him. Then, I'm doing a pizza challenge with this eater I know up there, and then I'll go sarge again.
It's interesting how I now have 4 friends up in Minneapolis and another one I met through competitive eating is moving up there next summer.
Last week and these MN outings need to prepare me for solo sarging in Cleveland this weekend. Then, I'll be in FL and will really need to solo sarge.
Saturday, October 18, 2014
An escalation away
I had some amazing sets after the college that probably should have been more and could have been lays but somehow I couldn't integrate my birthday lesson. As recently as two days ago, I failed to escalate. It's really fucking frustrating that I could be stuck at this point again.
Today, I really did step up a lot more than I have been. I feel like I'm so close. It also helped that I saw Crazyfoot open a girl, make out with her quickly, and then pull her out of the bar. I'm almost certain he got laid. Seeing that in person again made me realize again that what I want to happen isn't really that hard.
I can tell I'm close and hopefully I'll remember tonight's lessons and really have a good night on Saturday. I felt compelled to write so that maybe that would help me internalize the lessons.
I can say that I'm so much more confident that I used to be. I feel like my game is coming together but again, I'm just lacking this newbie escalation problem. I fixed it in the past, and I know I'll fix it soon. This time I might really start to live the PUA lifestyle that I always sought. I say this because this time, so many aspects of my game have improved.
I've been opening confidently and I'm not being as intimidated by some of the girls that I would have been in the past. It still happens occasionally, but I've been calming talking to tall girls and girls that are totally my type.
I don't claim to be close to figuring out "the game" yet. There's so much to learn. I think if I get this escalation problem fixed, I'll have much more opportunities to get to late/end game. I'll also get lays just because I'll be getting to late game more often, even though I'll inevitably screw up there.
Today, I really did step up a lot more than I have been. I feel like I'm so close. It also helped that I saw Crazyfoot open a girl, make out with her quickly, and then pull her out of the bar. I'm almost certain he got laid. Seeing that in person again made me realize again that what I want to happen isn't really that hard.
I can tell I'm close and hopefully I'll remember tonight's lessons and really have a good night on Saturday. I felt compelled to write so that maybe that would help me internalize the lessons.
I can say that I'm so much more confident that I used to be. I feel like my game is coming together but again, I'm just lacking this newbie escalation problem. I fixed it in the past, and I know I'll fix it soon. This time I might really start to live the PUA lifestyle that I always sought. I say this because this time, so many aspects of my game have improved.
I've been opening confidently and I'm not being as intimidated by some of the girls that I would have been in the past. It still happens occasionally, but I've been calming talking to tall girls and girls that are totally my type.
I don't claim to be close to figuring out "the game" yet. There's so much to learn. I think if I get this escalation problem fixed, I'll have much more opportunities to get to late/end game. I'll also get lays just because I'll be getting to late game more often, even though I'll inevitably screw up there.
Hitting up colleges in Sept and feeling young
I haven't been posting much obviously. I didn't go out that often this summer as competitive eating filled up my life. Now that the season has died down a bit, I've been able to go out more: tonight was the third day I went out in a row. I went on two road trips with Seagull in September where I hit some eating contests and then we hit the several college towns. We hit up University of Delaware, University of Connecticut, Penn State, and Michigan State. I think we'd both agree that Delaware had the a ridiculous amount of hot girls walking around there. The hottest girl I saw out of those 4 schools was in a bar at U Conn: a really tall, amazing blonde.
I felt young again at Delaware:
That night out with Seagull was a good way to get back into the game. Again, I hadn't been out much and despite being tired from the long drive and knowing I had to get up early for a mushroom contest the next day, we still went out. I remember tapping on this girl on the dance floor. She looked over and just decided to start grinding her ass on my crotch. That felt good and I had to giggle about how I can still get college girls at my age. I tried to escalate that interaction more and so did Seagull with his girl from that set, but we couldn't make anything more happen. I thought it was weird though that this girl is grinding her ass on my hard on and then having a conversation with her friend at the same time.
The bars closed early there (1am). Seagull was working some set and I was stuck outside. I was glad to get to the car and drink a ton of bottled waters. The bar was so hot that my shirt was completely soaked with sweat. I was a bit self conscious about that but of course it didn't matter. Seagull opened this set in front of a pizza place and I started talking to this petite 18 year old coed. Seagull thought she was too thin, but I remembered she was really cute and we were having an amazingly deep conversation. The friends eventually did have to leave.
This is where I was a dumb ass because I was out of practice. I didn't even try to go with them. I remember her saying she had to go and we held eye contact and then I just let her walk off. If I just asked if I could go with, I'm almost certain she would have agreed. Now, I probably wouldn't have gotten laid because I was out of practice, but the opportunity was there.
You're so hot:
There were some other interesting stories from when we went out at UConn and Penn State but I don't want to write it all out. That weekend worked out well in the food contest department and I had a quick break into sarging. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to go out regularly after that.
A few weeks later, we went to the Detroit area for a food contest. We stopped Michigan State on the way home in East Lansing. I celebrated my birthday at midnight in some bar there. I went with the cheat codes and was feeling out of state for most of the night.
We left the venue before closing time and starting doing street sets. Getting those quick and successive rejections really gets me into a good state, amazingly enough. One would doesn't sarge would think I'd lose state and feel down from all the rejection but it has the opposite effect. Tyler would say I built momentum from the constant opening.
I remember seeing this blonde walking toward me and I just decided I was going to open her confidently. She surprised me by making eye contact and then stopping. I had a few other sets stop but this could have been a birthday lay with just a little more persistence.
I was having escalation problems and even after this, I've been having problems. This was always a big sticking point and every time I've fixed it, I started to get make outs and lays, like one would think I should be getting. This set was a breakthrough set because I just manned up and pulled her close to me.
I remember Tyler talking about how sometimes girls would tell him how hot he was even though he admits he's not good looking. This girl was saying ridiculous stuff to me in the same way. First, when she found out how old I was, she was telling me about how her roommate was supposedly banging some older guy and she seriously said she was kind of jealous because she wanted to be with an older guy. Later on, she kept telling me how hot I was.
I'm decent looking but I realize that it was my confidence and all the other stuff I was doing right that made her say these things. I also realized it was what Tyler said about how drunk girls will sometimes say stuff like this out loud. Other girls think this but don't say it.
"You're single tonight."
I was actually trying to be persistent in creating reasons to go to her place. Later, I tried to go for the kiss and she pulled back. She told me she had a boyfriend. This wasn't the blow off line as she was clearly attracted, but she seriously had boyfriend and started to feel guilty about it.
I remember her saying, "I can't kiss you. You're hot but I have a boyfriend. You'll have no problem finding another girl tonight."
I let go of her hand and she was about to walk away and then I said, "Hey, you're single tonight."
I'll always remember my surprise when she turned back after I said that. She had thought about what I said and wanted to go along with it.
Then I fucked up and didn't persist shortly after that. Seagull had a good point that I could have just said that I'd walk her home. That's the old "baby steps" technique. The next step was to walk her home and I could work on getting invited in at that point. Instead I kept thinking how insurmountable it seemed to be to get up to her place and have sex that I just gave up. Dumb.
I felt alive again:
Yes, I screwed up, but I'll forever remember this birthday night. It could have been more memorable with a birthday lay and it was possible that night. Still, I have to feel good that this college girl was so close to cheating on that boyfriend and hooking up with me. I just lacked the experience in late game maneuvering.
I'll remember the night because I stepped up. I actually escalated and manned up. I got reminded of how it feels to bring the girl close and have us gaze into each others eyes. I felt the sexual tension that build up between us and I can't believe I went so long without feeling that.
I thought I'd have no problem escalating the next time I went out, but the 10 day gap after that meant the lesson didn't fully stick.
I felt young again at Delaware:
That night out with Seagull was a good way to get back into the game. Again, I hadn't been out much and despite being tired from the long drive and knowing I had to get up early for a mushroom contest the next day, we still went out. I remember tapping on this girl on the dance floor. She looked over and just decided to start grinding her ass on my crotch. That felt good and I had to giggle about how I can still get college girls at my age. I tried to escalate that interaction more and so did Seagull with his girl from that set, but we couldn't make anything more happen. I thought it was weird though that this girl is grinding her ass on my hard on and then having a conversation with her friend at the same time.
The bars closed early there (1am). Seagull was working some set and I was stuck outside. I was glad to get to the car and drink a ton of bottled waters. The bar was so hot that my shirt was completely soaked with sweat. I was a bit self conscious about that but of course it didn't matter. Seagull opened this set in front of a pizza place and I started talking to this petite 18 year old coed. Seagull thought she was too thin, but I remembered she was really cute and we were having an amazingly deep conversation. The friends eventually did have to leave.
This is where I was a dumb ass because I was out of practice. I didn't even try to go with them. I remember her saying she had to go and we held eye contact and then I just let her walk off. If I just asked if I could go with, I'm almost certain she would have agreed. Now, I probably wouldn't have gotten laid because I was out of practice, but the opportunity was there.
You're so hot:
There were some other interesting stories from when we went out at UConn and Penn State but I don't want to write it all out. That weekend worked out well in the food contest department and I had a quick break into sarging. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to go out regularly after that.
A few weeks later, we went to the Detroit area for a food contest. We stopped Michigan State on the way home in East Lansing. I celebrated my birthday at midnight in some bar there. I went with the cheat codes and was feeling out of state for most of the night.
We left the venue before closing time and starting doing street sets. Getting those quick and successive rejections really gets me into a good state, amazingly enough. One would doesn't sarge would think I'd lose state and feel down from all the rejection but it has the opposite effect. Tyler would say I built momentum from the constant opening.
I remember seeing this blonde walking toward me and I just decided I was going to open her confidently. She surprised me by making eye contact and then stopping. I had a few other sets stop but this could have been a birthday lay with just a little more persistence.
I was having escalation problems and even after this, I've been having problems. This was always a big sticking point and every time I've fixed it, I started to get make outs and lays, like one would think I should be getting. This set was a breakthrough set because I just manned up and pulled her close to me.
I remember Tyler talking about how sometimes girls would tell him how hot he was even though he admits he's not good looking. This girl was saying ridiculous stuff to me in the same way. First, when she found out how old I was, she was telling me about how her roommate was supposedly banging some older guy and she seriously said she was kind of jealous because she wanted to be with an older guy. Later on, she kept telling me how hot I was.
I'm decent looking but I realize that it was my confidence and all the other stuff I was doing right that made her say these things. I also realized it was what Tyler said about how drunk girls will sometimes say stuff like this out loud. Other girls think this but don't say it.
"You're single tonight."
I was actually trying to be persistent in creating reasons to go to her place. Later, I tried to go for the kiss and she pulled back. She told me she had a boyfriend. This wasn't the blow off line as she was clearly attracted, but she seriously had boyfriend and started to feel guilty about it.
I remember her saying, "I can't kiss you. You're hot but I have a boyfriend. You'll have no problem finding another girl tonight."
I let go of her hand and she was about to walk away and then I said, "Hey, you're single tonight."
I'll always remember my surprise when she turned back after I said that. She had thought about what I said and wanted to go along with it.
Then I fucked up and didn't persist shortly after that. Seagull had a good point that I could have just said that I'd walk her home. That's the old "baby steps" technique. The next step was to walk her home and I could work on getting invited in at that point. Instead I kept thinking how insurmountable it seemed to be to get up to her place and have sex that I just gave up. Dumb.
I felt alive again:
Yes, I screwed up, but I'll forever remember this birthday night. It could have been more memorable with a birthday lay and it was possible that night. Still, I have to feel good that this college girl was so close to cheating on that boyfriend and hooking up with me. I just lacked the experience in late game maneuvering.
I'll remember the night because I stepped up. I actually escalated and manned up. I got reminded of how it feels to bring the girl close and have us gaze into each others eyes. I felt the sexual tension that build up between us and I can't believe I went so long without feeling that.
I thought I'd have no problem escalating the next time I went out, but the 10 day gap after that meant the lesson didn't fully stick.
Sunday, June 15, 2014
Finally feel like my powers are back
As I mentioned in my last post, I've gone out sporadically. Over the past few weeks, I managed to make myself open more. That was a big step, but once I got comfortable with that, I then faced my ever present sticking point of making the interaction go somewhere beyond the friend to friend conversation.
Short update of past few months:
I had an awakening a few weeks ago when I was out with Seagull. I remember we opened this 2-set on he street in Wrigley. I decided to tease this girl about being a hipster and then I made an effort to try kino her. I remember I did the old trick of complimenting her on something and then saying I wanted to hug her. I was surprised how enthusiastically she wanted to hug me. I knew it was on then and I set up a venue change to Barleycorn. Unfortunately, the friend didn't like Seagull. I can't blame him as I've been on the other side of that far too many times. I didn't even try for the number close or try to stay with my girl. In any case, it was a huge breakthrough to get me to actually create attraction and touch.
I had that lesson in my mind but I still was struggling. I had another breakthrough last week when I was up in Minnesota for some contest. I met up with Vortexx, which is a guy I know from World of Warcraft. Fatty McGee was surprised I was actually able to sarge with someone I met from the game. I replied that Vortexx was probably equally surprised that I was from WoW and outgoing. I felt good being from out of town and having placed in this eating contest so I was opening like crazy.
I could have pulled this drunk girl, but it didn't feel right. If I didn't have another contest the next day, I might have just taken her to a diner or something and let her sober up but I didn't have that kind of time. When I say drunk, I mean she was really incoherent. I actually left when I noticed this, but she grabbed my hand and said, "Help me find my friends." I walked around with her again and she was pointing at random people and saying, "Are these my friends?" She wandered off and I just gave up on that.
The other interesting thing that happened is that these two girls got super excited when they learned about my competitive eating hobby. They asked if I had twitter, and I should have given them my facebook but I don't really promote myself like other eaters do.
Speaking of that, after a contest the next day, two sets of girls approached me after I won this contest and started talking to me. I laugh that before learning pickup, I thought I had to lose weight and be super lean/ripped, and it turns out the way I get the most attention is by binge eating like a champion!
Just a few hours ago, these two others girls got really excited when competitive eating came up again and they wanted to take a picture with me like the other girls in MN did. This is after I explained that I'm not as good as the big name people and I'm just better or of similar skill to the mid tier eaters.
My best chance for a 5 minutes lay:
It hurts me to write this story. I know if what happened to me tonight happened to any of my wings that were out today, they would have pulled and had a 5 minutes lay. It's seriously unbelievable how I manage to screw up sure things and keep up my dry spell.
I was upstairs at Barleycorn in River North. Jason Derula actually performed there briefly later on in the night. That kind of messed up pickup when he was performing. I took a pic of him on stage but I wasn't that excited about being in the same room as him. It was just like when Nelly was at Social 21. The only celebrities I'd like to meet are hot models/hot actresses to see what they look like in real life. I also would like to meet certain world leaders I suppose, but other than that I don't really care.
Before the performance, I was standing by one of my wings. I noticed this blond playing with her phone. She looked like she was about to have a panic attack or something. Just as I was about to approach her, she actually approached me. She looked upset and she said, "Hi. Do you know where the exit is?"
Me: Are you okay? You look like you are about to have a panic attack or something.
HB: Where is the exit? (She was really flustered at this point).
Me: I don't work here, but here's the exit.
I walked her over to the stairs. She thanked me and then looked down. I think I put her arm around her and I remember she enthusiastically nestled into me. She was all over me as I was walking her down the stairs.
I actually thought she was plastered or on something at this point, but later I realized she wasn't as drunk as I thought she was.
We got downstairs and she thanked me. I started to make small talk.
I remember her telling me something like, "There was this guy her who just didn't like me."
Thinking back, it sounded like she had a date that went badly, or she just got dumped or something. The later would explain why she was looking to validate herself by hooking up with me so quickly. The whole situation was happening so fast that I couldn't think clearly.
I remember her kissing me hand at one point. I remember gazing into her eyes as I had my hands on her hips and her telling me again that basically some guy blew her off.
One of my wings would ask me if I made out with her. Clearly, that was the move. I know if I just went to kiss her, it would have been totally on and I could have just pulled and gotten laid.
Chump:
Just as quickly as it had started, it fizzled out. She left and then went outside. I was at least smart enough to make myself go try again. I saw her in front trying to catch a cab. I told her she was going to get hit by a car as she was standing in the street. She said, "I'm okay." She was cold to me now and I realized why just shortly after she got into a cab and left. She wasn't totally plastered like I thought initially. She was having a bad day and might have been about to have a panic attack. I probably recognized the look from when I opened this girl during this Cinco de Mayo pub crawl a few years ago. I SNL pulled that girl and she told me she was about to have a panic attack on this pub crawl bus and when I opened her, I helped calm her down.
This girl tonight felt so comfortable after I brought her out of that panic state. When I put my arm on her, she felt better. She felt wanted after being spurned by that other guy. She wanted to get laid and was making it about as obvious as a girl is going to get. Most girls wouldn't have been even that forward. I mean, when I put my arm around her, she snuggled into me. She kissed my hand. She was gazing into my eyes and basically telling me that she just got rejected/dumped.
Initially she felt I was this awesome, confident guy that was going to redeem her day and that I just turned into a clueless chump. I think Tyler has likened it to if as a guy, you were talking to some supermodel and she all of a sudden ballooned into a giant warpig. I turned into a chump after she had made a big effort to make it obvious she wanted to go home with me.
My wing later said that when she opened me, he could tell she wanted to fuck me.
Wow, do I manage to screw up in some massive ways...
Cockblocked by the friends:
I lamented about that screw up but I wasn't about to give up. I opened some more later on but nothing of note happened. Well, I was thinking about opening this girl by a light pole that Asian Cousin ended up opening. She had massively high buying temperature. I learned that when I came back to wing him when I saw there were two girls by him. I thought his target was this French girl and the girl I was talking to was so touchy and again, of obvious high buying temp. Asian Cousin then switched b/c that was he target and I talked to this attractive French girl. They wanted to go back into Paris Club and the door waned to charge us $40 to get in even though there was only 30 minutes left. Screw that. On top of that, his target was the high buying temp girl.
I actually hit a state crash but ran into 2j and Crazyfoot. It seems like all of our old crew was out this evening. I ended opening this thin girl who was slightly taller than me. She was from Detroit and I had her into me enough that she was about to walk to this other venue with me. Her friends kept texting her. The first time, she couldn't find them and then we were just a half block from the other venue when they called her.
I screwed up as I knew if we went back to the friends, I was going to lose this. I think of an old free tour where Brad talked about taking the phone away from the girl or having her put it away. I think about a Manwhore story where he dodged this bachelorette party from cockblocking him by taking a girl out another exit at a casino in Vegas. I thought I could smooth talk the friends and was hoping for a wing to help me.
Instead, I got massively cockblocked. I tried talking to the friends and they were like, "Thank you for bring her to us" and then they walked off with her.
FUCK!
I could just tell if I got her to the venue, this was going to be on. I could really work my verbal magic and escalate. She was from out of town so would be in the party mindset. Nothing is certain (except for that 5 min lay opportunity maybe), but I think the odds were good her.
Feeling like my powers were back:
That's what I kept thinking on my drive home. I build some massive momentum from going out 3 days in a row and I build up from the past few weeks. What was big today was that I was completely sober. Things were easier with the "cheat codes" (that's what I call drinking) Thursday, and especially Friday. That I did things sober taught me that I'm finally getting myself in the right mind set. (On another note, I think I am ready for some day game now that I had a good night and create the good night sober).
One big lesson from Friday was that I gave it the full effort I was capable of at the time. I ended up with nothing but it made me realize two things. First, it felt good to be opening on the dance floor and just opening more often than not. In the end, nothing happened and I wasn't really close to getting laid. The thing I realized is that this is hard: I can give it my all and not wind up with a girl. Just imagine then, when I'm spending the entire night doubting myself and not opening. I have no chance then so I might as well give it my best effort. Again, it feels better to give my best effort and that's the only way to increase my odds. I've got almost no chance when I'm giving low effort.
A lot of pickup at this point is just giving myself permission to be that cool guy I'm capable of being. It's giving myself permission to keep opening random hot girls on the street or in the venue. It's risking the bad reactions and the instant blowouts because I know that will give me the momentum to get in a good, confident mood. It's knowing that giving my best effort will yield results with if I just go out consistently.
This is a breakthrough night in that I actually made myself take all this time to type this up for myself. I got a taste of how it was last summer. I had a chance to get laid really quickly that I messed up, but I'm sure it will happen again. More likely, I'll go out more and have a lot of fun and create many promising opportunities. I don't have to keep thinking about how I wish I were back to last summer.
I'm close to having the powers I had back then and it's time to create some new adventures and blow past my last peak game point.
This time I'll get laid more...
Short update of past few months:
I had an awakening a few weeks ago when I was out with Seagull. I remember we opened this 2-set on he street in Wrigley. I decided to tease this girl about being a hipster and then I made an effort to try kino her. I remember I did the old trick of complimenting her on something and then saying I wanted to hug her. I was surprised how enthusiastically she wanted to hug me. I knew it was on then and I set up a venue change to Barleycorn. Unfortunately, the friend didn't like Seagull. I can't blame him as I've been on the other side of that far too many times. I didn't even try for the number close or try to stay with my girl. In any case, it was a huge breakthrough to get me to actually create attraction and touch.
I had that lesson in my mind but I still was struggling. I had another breakthrough last week when I was up in Minnesota for some contest. I met up with Vortexx, which is a guy I know from World of Warcraft. Fatty McGee was surprised I was actually able to sarge with someone I met from the game. I replied that Vortexx was probably equally surprised that I was from WoW and outgoing. I felt good being from out of town and having placed in this eating contest so I was opening like crazy.
I could have pulled this drunk girl, but it didn't feel right. If I didn't have another contest the next day, I might have just taken her to a diner or something and let her sober up but I didn't have that kind of time. When I say drunk, I mean she was really incoherent. I actually left when I noticed this, but she grabbed my hand and said, "Help me find my friends." I walked around with her again and she was pointing at random people and saying, "Are these my friends?" She wandered off and I just gave up on that.
The other interesting thing that happened is that these two girls got super excited when they learned about my competitive eating hobby. They asked if I had twitter, and I should have given them my facebook but I don't really promote myself like other eaters do.
Speaking of that, after a contest the next day, two sets of girls approached me after I won this contest and started talking to me. I laugh that before learning pickup, I thought I had to lose weight and be super lean/ripped, and it turns out the way I get the most attention is by binge eating like a champion!
Just a few hours ago, these two others girls got really excited when competitive eating came up again and they wanted to take a picture with me like the other girls in MN did. This is after I explained that I'm not as good as the big name people and I'm just better or of similar skill to the mid tier eaters.
My best chance for a 5 minutes lay:
It hurts me to write this story. I know if what happened to me tonight happened to any of my wings that were out today, they would have pulled and had a 5 minutes lay. It's seriously unbelievable how I manage to screw up sure things and keep up my dry spell.
I was upstairs at Barleycorn in River North. Jason Derula actually performed there briefly later on in the night. That kind of messed up pickup when he was performing. I took a pic of him on stage but I wasn't that excited about being in the same room as him. It was just like when Nelly was at Social 21. The only celebrities I'd like to meet are hot models/hot actresses to see what they look like in real life. I also would like to meet certain world leaders I suppose, but other than that I don't really care.
Before the performance, I was standing by one of my wings. I noticed this blond playing with her phone. She looked like she was about to have a panic attack or something. Just as I was about to approach her, she actually approached me. She looked upset and she said, "Hi. Do you know where the exit is?"
Me: Are you okay? You look like you are about to have a panic attack or something.
HB: Where is the exit? (She was really flustered at this point).
Me: I don't work here, but here's the exit.
I walked her over to the stairs. She thanked me and then looked down. I think I put her arm around her and I remember she enthusiastically nestled into me. She was all over me as I was walking her down the stairs.
I actually thought she was plastered or on something at this point, but later I realized she wasn't as drunk as I thought she was.
We got downstairs and she thanked me. I started to make small talk.
I remember her telling me something like, "There was this guy her who just didn't like me."
Thinking back, it sounded like she had a date that went badly, or she just got dumped or something. The later would explain why she was looking to validate herself by hooking up with me so quickly. The whole situation was happening so fast that I couldn't think clearly.
I remember her kissing me hand at one point. I remember gazing into her eyes as I had my hands on her hips and her telling me again that basically some guy blew her off.
One of my wings would ask me if I made out with her. Clearly, that was the move. I know if I just went to kiss her, it would have been totally on and I could have just pulled and gotten laid.
Chump:
Just as quickly as it had started, it fizzled out. She left and then went outside. I was at least smart enough to make myself go try again. I saw her in front trying to catch a cab. I told her she was going to get hit by a car as she was standing in the street. She said, "I'm okay." She was cold to me now and I realized why just shortly after she got into a cab and left. She wasn't totally plastered like I thought initially. She was having a bad day and might have been about to have a panic attack. I probably recognized the look from when I opened this girl during this Cinco de Mayo pub crawl a few years ago. I SNL pulled that girl and she told me she was about to have a panic attack on this pub crawl bus and when I opened her, I helped calm her down.
This girl tonight felt so comfortable after I brought her out of that panic state. When I put my arm on her, she felt better. She felt wanted after being spurned by that other guy. She wanted to get laid and was making it about as obvious as a girl is going to get. Most girls wouldn't have been even that forward. I mean, when I put my arm around her, she snuggled into me. She kissed my hand. She was gazing into my eyes and basically telling me that she just got rejected/dumped.
Initially she felt I was this awesome, confident guy that was going to redeem her day and that I just turned into a clueless chump. I think Tyler has likened it to if as a guy, you were talking to some supermodel and she all of a sudden ballooned into a giant warpig. I turned into a chump after she had made a big effort to make it obvious she wanted to go home with me.
My wing later said that when she opened me, he could tell she wanted to fuck me.
Wow, do I manage to screw up in some massive ways...
Cockblocked by the friends:
I lamented about that screw up but I wasn't about to give up. I opened some more later on but nothing of note happened. Well, I was thinking about opening this girl by a light pole that Asian Cousin ended up opening. She had massively high buying temperature. I learned that when I came back to wing him when I saw there were two girls by him. I thought his target was this French girl and the girl I was talking to was so touchy and again, of obvious high buying temp. Asian Cousin then switched b/c that was he target and I talked to this attractive French girl. They wanted to go back into Paris Club and the door waned to charge us $40 to get in even though there was only 30 minutes left. Screw that. On top of that, his target was the high buying temp girl.
I actually hit a state crash but ran into 2j and Crazyfoot. It seems like all of our old crew was out this evening. I ended opening this thin girl who was slightly taller than me. She was from Detroit and I had her into me enough that she was about to walk to this other venue with me. Her friends kept texting her. The first time, she couldn't find them and then we were just a half block from the other venue when they called her.
I screwed up as I knew if we went back to the friends, I was going to lose this. I think of an old free tour where Brad talked about taking the phone away from the girl or having her put it away. I think about a Manwhore story where he dodged this bachelorette party from cockblocking him by taking a girl out another exit at a casino in Vegas. I thought I could smooth talk the friends and was hoping for a wing to help me.
Instead, I got massively cockblocked. I tried talking to the friends and they were like, "Thank you for bring her to us" and then they walked off with her.
FUCK!
I could just tell if I got her to the venue, this was going to be on. I could really work my verbal magic and escalate. She was from out of town so would be in the party mindset. Nothing is certain (except for that 5 min lay opportunity maybe), but I think the odds were good her.
Feeling like my powers were back:
That's what I kept thinking on my drive home. I build some massive momentum from going out 3 days in a row and I build up from the past few weeks. What was big today was that I was completely sober. Things were easier with the "cheat codes" (that's what I call drinking) Thursday, and especially Friday. That I did things sober taught me that I'm finally getting myself in the right mind set. (On another note, I think I am ready for some day game now that I had a good night and create the good night sober).
One big lesson from Friday was that I gave it the full effort I was capable of at the time. I ended up with nothing but it made me realize two things. First, it felt good to be opening on the dance floor and just opening more often than not. In the end, nothing happened and I wasn't really close to getting laid. The thing I realized is that this is hard: I can give it my all and not wind up with a girl. Just imagine then, when I'm spending the entire night doubting myself and not opening. I have no chance then so I might as well give it my best effort. Again, it feels better to give my best effort and that's the only way to increase my odds. I've got almost no chance when I'm giving low effort.
A lot of pickup at this point is just giving myself permission to be that cool guy I'm capable of being. It's giving myself permission to keep opening random hot girls on the street or in the venue. It's risking the bad reactions and the instant blowouts because I know that will give me the momentum to get in a good, confident mood. It's knowing that giving my best effort will yield results with if I just go out consistently.
This is a breakthrough night in that I actually made myself take all this time to type this up for myself. I got a taste of how it was last summer. I had a chance to get laid really quickly that I messed up, but I'm sure it will happen again. More likely, I'll go out more and have a lot of fun and create many promising opportunities. I don't have to keep thinking about how I wish I were back to last summer.
I'm close to having the powers I had back then and it's time to create some new adventures and blow past my last peak game point.
This time I'll get laid more...
March Update: Didn't get laid b/c their literally was too much stuff in the car
I kept saying I was going to update this. I took a long break after my last post. I went out a few times in March and then took more time off. I had some adventures out of state and with Seagull that helped get me on track. There actually were some fun times. Even with my shitty skills (compared to where I was last summer) I had some opportunities to get laid that I messed up on. That was frustrating but also inspiring, on one level, as it meant that even with shaky confidence and rusty game, I still could be attractive.
Comical how I managed to avoid getting laid:
There was a comical incident with Asian Cousin in March. I wasn't really doing much. I opened a few times (I'm talking like 3-4 maximum which is what I would do as a newbie). Asian Cousin was in massive state and was just trying nonstop. At the very end of the night, he opened these chubby girls and he shoved me into the back seat of a cab with them. Then he and this other wing were trying to figure out who was going to hop in the front. Asian Cousin finally just pushed the other wing back, closed the door and the cab drove off.
The girls had the cab drive them to a parking garage where their car was parked. The girls tried to ask us to pitch in for the cab and we both looked at each other and said "We don't have any money." One girl was frustrated and said, "It figures" and then paid for it.
I actually learned a good lesson from this set and I'm glad I'm taking the time to write about it now as it will help ingrain this lesson. For a second, I felt awkward walking with them and in the past I could see myself just slowing down and letting them walk ahead. Instead, I just walked with them telling myself to just act as it it were natural to go with them to the car. They didn't object and just went with it.
I thought we were actually going to pull this set. In the cab, and as we were walking, one girl said several times that there was no room for us in the car. I thought they were just throwing out token resistance so I just ignored it. Asian Cousin later said he thought the same thing.
When we got to their vehicle, we saw they were telling the truth. They had this SUV, and they must have been getting ready to remodel as the back seat and hatch area was completely filled with shit. We literally could not fit in there even if I tried to lay on top of the stuff.
We just said good bye and walked away. As we did this, I realized we could have tried to figure out something else. I was in a really bad state, though, and I couldn't do it and Asian PUA didn't think to do anything either. It was too late when I spoke up and said we messed this up and should have figured out a way to go home with them.
Comical how I managed to avoid getting laid:
There was a comical incident with Asian Cousin in March. I wasn't really doing much. I opened a few times (I'm talking like 3-4 maximum which is what I would do as a newbie). Asian Cousin was in massive state and was just trying nonstop. At the very end of the night, he opened these chubby girls and he shoved me into the back seat of a cab with them. Then he and this other wing were trying to figure out who was going to hop in the front. Asian Cousin finally just pushed the other wing back, closed the door and the cab drove off.
The girls had the cab drive them to a parking garage where their car was parked. The girls tried to ask us to pitch in for the cab and we both looked at each other and said "We don't have any money." One girl was frustrated and said, "It figures" and then paid for it.
I actually learned a good lesson from this set and I'm glad I'm taking the time to write about it now as it will help ingrain this lesson. For a second, I felt awkward walking with them and in the past I could see myself just slowing down and letting them walk ahead. Instead, I just walked with them telling myself to just act as it it were natural to go with them to the car. They didn't object and just went with it.
I thought we were actually going to pull this set. In the cab, and as we were walking, one girl said several times that there was no room for us in the car. I thought they were just throwing out token resistance so I just ignored it. Asian Cousin later said he thought the same thing.
When we got to their vehicle, we saw they were telling the truth. They had this SUV, and they must have been getting ready to remodel as the back seat and hatch area was completely filled with shit. We literally could not fit in there even if I tried to lay on top of the stuff.
We just said good bye and walked away. As we did this, I realized we could have tried to figure out something else. I was in a really bad state, though, and I couldn't do it and Asian PUA didn't think to do anything either. It was too late when I spoke up and said we messed this up and should have figured out a way to go home with them.
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